How could you view love as less intimidating?

Love can feel like stepping onto a stage with no script, and if you already live with social anxiety, the spotlight feels ten times harsher. The thing is, “being enough” isn’t about performing perfectly or never fumbling words… it’s about showing up as you are, quirks and all.

Try flipping the perspective: instead of love being this intimidating exam you have to pass, think of it as two people just seeing if your puzzle pieces fit. You don’t have to be everyone’s match…you just have to be the right match for someone. And often, the very vulnerability you’re afraid of is what makes you relatable and magnetic.

Dating and love get less scary when you stop treating them like a final judgment on your worth. They’re just experiments, little test drives of connection. If someone can’t appreciate you, that’s not proof you’re “not enough” it’s just proof they’re not your person. 💗

You might check into a hypnotherapist. Like they do with people who have addictions. To pull out the reasons why you have self doubt. Go deeper into your self conscious and eliminate your feelings of not being good enough. I had a very good success rate with that kind of therapy. Unless you don't lean that way. Just something to think about

One thing I'll say is make clear boundaries and keep them and don't ignore any kind of red flags- this is not to make you more anxious, because if you are aware and can take a control of your own life you feel less anxious about going forward.
They're also green flags if the person isn't pushy, give you plenty of time to be comfortable, never see them go off on anyone, they listen as well as speak, they want to know about you and not just spend your time talking about themselves, and the like

The matching part is something neither you nor anyone else has control over. You need not be concerned with that(even though I recognize your brain goes there).

The real work is AFTER you meet someone. Communicating. Resolving conflict. Compromising. Choosing battles.

I'm just telling you the truth.

Focus on the details you do love “ wow that was a great dinner (restaurant)” I loved the conversation but hated the waiter; as an example

I don't know why you feel that way about yourself. You're fantastic.

If someone as crazy as me can find love anyone can. You are so sweet person, let others see that.

Sounds like joyful silence to me! 😁

Or thee olde-school translation:


"not puffed up" 😆

Focus on my love of something not someone.
I love apples and food in general i do not love cooking though

I have the other end of the stick. I'm frightened *of* love, sex, intimacy and relationships, and totally against marriage.

I hope someday you can.

When you love for the sake of loving, without associating it with anything else.

You make too many associations including self-perceptions.

Well it's just ur overthinking

Are You just going to cut bait all your life and never go fishing?

Perhaps you should try a relationship with a younger man