Men & Women - how did you move on from a breakup?

The secret is to focus on being on your grind.Don't spend any time hating after a breakup.You make the ex irrelevant to you and concentrate on self improvement.

I’ll let you know when I get there.

Allow myself to feel the grief and the feelings associated with it - they are like waves, they pass.
If necessary, express them though poetry, painting, music, dance, etc.
Figure out what went wrong. Learn from it so as not to make the same mistakes again.
Focus on all the other aspects of my life.
In particular, keep nurturing my friendships.

Denden, sorry for your pain. I would offer up to that there is no such thing as unconditional love. All relationships have conditions.

I had one that messed me up really bad for a while once. In the first 3-6 months I kept to myself outside of work. I see you like hiking. I was hiking a lot in those days because it is an alone activity

Somewhere around month 7 I started dating. I made really sure to go really slow and not jump into a committed relationship even if I like the woman I was dating. I needed to be ok emotionally before doing that. That lasted until about month 18. If you do that and get pressed the accurate answer is you are not ready for commitment at this time.

Your different variables are COVID and swipe dating both which has probably changed dating forever. I am have not experienced either of those and don't feel to offer ideas without that qualifier in but at least spend a few months with your hiking and other lone hobbies. That is a good first step if nothing else.

Best of luck

I somehow managed to convince him to take me back ! Thank God!

For me, it was nothing more than time. One break up took me 3-months to recover from, and in hindsight I realized I didn’t really love him, it was more about my needs. Another break up took 5-years to recover because I truly loved him in the purest form of love.

The breakup with my very first bf was traumatic. I was devastated and cried a lot and listened to sad music (I was still a teen).

The rest were not that bad. Usually I remained friends with my exes because the breakups had been pretty much mutual.

Learn to love in moderation and turn all that missing love you gave out to yourself instead. Focus on yourself. When a part of you is ripped out, you HAVE to start placing your hand on the wound. Hold it down, tighten your focus and go

Quite simple.. it's just losing a job or losing an employee.. so just depends whether you are an employer or an employee..

Employee finds another job
Employer hires another employee

I lost a few relationships in my lifetime. It makes you realize what a better person you are from it. Closing the door is easier knowing they truly didn't care for me like I thought. Their loss, my gain

Focus on yourself and do things you like. You always find someone when you aren’t really looking!

Get with his friends so I can spend more time with him and he doesn't have anyone to talk to about what I did to him

The same way you move on after a death. Resentment, anger, grief, uncertainty, etc, etc., eventually resignation and accommodation.

A lot of Bob Dylan

You never really do

You go find a better person.

I was very depressed for a while but had to move forward. It just took some time.

The reason of the break up helped