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Should he be paying?

My boyfriend of two years recently invited me to a concert. I said that I would love to go with him. He then proceeded to say tickets are $50, and that if I’ll be taking my brothers car. In my mind when I agreed, I thought he was offering to take me with him. Am i wrong for thinking that or is that how it usually goes? He usually pays when he invites. But this time he isn’t but wants me there
SW-User
First couple of dates I think a man should pay but two years into a relationship, work it out between both of you, that's more than reasonable.
Sweetlittle20 · 22-25, F
you are correct if he asked you to go with him then he pays its the right thing to do
calicuz · 56-60, M
What a schmuck, cut him loose!!!
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
@calicuz he’s a scrub, calling out the passenger side of his best friends ride…
calicuz · 56-60, M
I would think with him telling you the price of the ticket that he was expecting you to pay for your own .
If he's your boyfriend, he should pay for the ticket in my opinion, but that's me.
Since he let you know the cost, no, you should be paying.
Why do you let him pay all the time anyhow?
Boyfriends are not walking wallets to be used.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
No, if my friend or sister or colleague or whoever told me about a concert, I wouldn't expect them to pay for my ticket even though technically they invited me, I'd look up the price first and accept or decline the invitation based on my budget. Not everyone has it easy to spare 50 bucks. You're two years in a relationship, you must be close enough to suggest going on events and vacations together without the person who invites having to pay every time. If he hadn't told you about it you'd most likely also be upset he didn't invite you.
AndysAttic · 56-60, M
Go by yourself and find a decent boyfriend at the venue. Give your brother a tenner for his trouble.
Fluffybull · F
I've converted $50 to pounds and that's about £40. That's not a lot IMO so I think he's being a bit of a cheapskate especially if you're providing the transport! If he asks, he should pay. If he expects you to pay for your own ticket he should have said "I've got a couple of tickets, do you want to buy one at $50 and come with me?". Maybe just get a less mean boyfriend.
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
That’s a loser move right there
chrisCA · M
@Jeephikelove True. He can't spring $100.00 for a pair of tickets.
deadgerbil · 26-30
It was his idea so he should pay
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
I’d say during the dating stage the guy should always pay, but I’m Mexican and old fashioned in that way.

Though, now that you guys are official I think it’s good if both people pay 50/50. Relationships should always be equal.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
He should pay if he’s inviting you. Sounds like money is tight for him. Feel free to decline the offer to go. He might offer to pay then.
chrisCA · M
He invited you, so he pays.
Why is he taking his brother's car?
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
@chrisCA they’re taking her brothers car…
chrisCA · M
@Jeephikelove I see. Either way, does the boyfriend have a car?
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
@chrisCA right!? Wtf?
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
I wonder what changed with him. Is he having money problems?
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
what a cheapskate lol.
SW-User
I’d ask him about it. I wouldn’t be offended, but also nobody has done anything for me in many years. You’ve been together awhile, I’m sure you could ask him. Maybe there’s a reason he didn’t trouble you with.
SW-User
I'm old fashioned I reckon. If he invited you yo ho with him, he should be paying. If he asked if you'd like to see it, the interpretation could be different.
You said he invited you he should pay or charge him for the ride if you take your brothers car...how cheap!
He wants a free ride in your brother's car fyi. He's using you to get to his concert
Elegy · 46-50
BE PREPARED, then if hey pays, no big deal.
RadioDust · 36-40, M
If he invite you then he should pay for it
SW-User
I don't like the world we're expected to accept now.... so many rules have changed and so many people just don't seem to be what they once were or were supposed to be.

If someone invites me to a movie, a dinner or a concert, I'd be thinking it's a date and he's paying.... but once he told you the price, I get the idea he wants you to pay your own way.
If it were me, I'd stay home. lol
I don't think a man should go broke for dates, but then...they shouldn't invite someone as a date if they can't afford it. And as for the car, let him take a taxi or public transportation! lol
Mktonght · 61-69, M
@SW-User The only men/boys that are worth your time from a relationship stand point, except Just a friend", should always pay for a date.
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