Men: Is SEX a prime motivator for you when searching love...?

As in "I am looking for a relationship, so I can have sex?"

Absolutely not. That would be a turnoff for me.

Having the best sex I can possibly have with a partner I bond with emotionally/intellectually? Absolutely.

I am at the stage in life where I would say there is more to a relationship than just sex. However, that wasn't always true when I was younger.

Today I believe sex/intimacy is important in a marriage, but compatibility in other areas is equally important. After all, if you are attracted to thicker women and love to eat.....you wouldn't pursue an anorexic woman who had no interest in cooking..... You need compatibility..... If you are a 'saver'...you wouldn't pursue a shopaholic... etc....

Are you really just asking if guys will buy the cow, when the milk is free??

I think this is relative to age, like a pendulum. Younger guys will say sex is most important. Older, more mature guys, will say there is more to a relationship than just sex.
Sex is always important and that's what makes a relationship with a woman different than with other guys. But it must be part of a total package, if you're talking about a relationship.

For any relationship to work it has to pass the eye test, or it wont end well. Both parties need to be sexually attracted to each other. The emotional bonding and respect takes a little time to develop, but wont happen at all if both are not physically and sexually attracted to each other. Sex is the brass ring that you get if you have done everything else right and mutual attraction is confirmed (ie a second date).

I've lived without s3x for all these years. Figure I could live for some more.
We need to connect emotionally.
If there's no emotional bonding, the s3x won't make the relationship last. In fact, it will be the biggest regret when everything's said and done.

S3x is lvst. Lvst cannot be the main factor in a relationship. After a while, say a few months or years, both partners will have done it all. At that point, the only thing that'll keep them together is true love. If their hearts beat for each other, they will stick together no matter what. Otherwise, they'll break it off and go looking for some new guy/girl.

Not really why should it be.... i just want someone to love ❤️

No but it is a big consideration for me along with whether I can stand them, whether they have a black sense of humour like mine, whether they're an atheist, their political stance. I am VERY VERY VERY judgmental when it comes to choosing a partner. So I don't care how wild the sex is, if they're religious then they're out.

Sammich making skills? 🤔

Well yeah! It may not be everything but it's a major component of a partner relationship. I think sex is how we form that unique bond between us, it's we go from the shallow to the deep end of the pool.

If it’s a serious inquiry by me then sex is an equal interest as to emotional compatibility.

BUT all men are different just like women. Some dudes just want sex and others dont… well as much. 🤔

No it's not the first thing I think of its important but there has to be something else. Whether it is his or her smile or something they do there is always that first impression.

So I was in a marriage for 29 years. We loved each other. But our sex drives were on opposite side of the spectrum. I did make things very difficult.

Without sex being the common denominator in a relationship, i can make my own damn sammich!

No, it is not a main point or a strong motivator. It is appreciated and anticipated with excitement though.

Love is both a noun and a verb. The physical is just as important as any other element

I don't search for it. I feel it should come organically....no pun there🫲🏼

Sex is very important to me, as I don't often look for else.

Nope. I could be pretty asexual if I have to be. Lol

Sex is not the motivating factor for me.

Yes

Are you lookin to make use of all them pills or what ?

It should have been.

It's not everything, but it is significant. It's a need like any other.

Lets put it this way if no sex was involved then why put up with the hassle lol

Sex is sex. When I want ice cream I don't ask for French fries. Js