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If I feel lonely most of the time and chat up with strangers here inspite of my current situation

Am I committing something wrong?
Is it cheating ?
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
I talk with strangers all the time, my wife knows and is fine with it.

I also know there are boundaries not to cross, and I don't cross them.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
Only you really know in your heart if it’s cheating. But from your question it seems you do know something needs to change or you will remain lonely. The chats are like popping a pain pill for something that needs surgery. Takes the edge off for a while. 😕 I’ve been there several times and it sucks. Hugs
PoetryNEmotion · 61-69, F
Your heart already knows the answer. Why do you remain unhappily in a relationship that is unsatisfying? Find a partner who truly loves you. Love has no tricks.
antonioioio · 61-69, M
You can talk to who you like, nobody owns you and it's not cheating ❤️
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
You're allowed to have friends and can still respect your relationship. You'll know if you're talking about something inappropriate or feel a need to hid things from your partner. Those would not be respectful behaviors.

You should also be openly, calmly and candidly discussing your loneliness with your partner.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
I don’t know your current situation, so I don’t know if it’s cheating or not.
awhitedot · 46-50, M
@Lovetrick that’s not a good sign.
Lovetrick · 36-40, FNew
@awhitedot He is always on his phone
awhitedot · 46-50, M
@Lovetrick definitely a red flag for a new relationship. He really should be a bit more focused on you if you are lacking attention. I can promise it won’t get better over time if this is the way it’s starting. There is a time and place to be on your phone but if it causes him to neglect your needs that’s a problem.
awhitedot · 46-50, M
People have needs. Conversation and connection is one of them. Having conversations is harmless. You know where your heart lies.
If you're not having sexual discussions or sending nudes you should be OK. Not to be overly simple, but that would pretty much sum it up.🤷‍♂️
Rambler · M
Your heart will tell you what's right or wrong but it sounds as though your situation is lacking
Havesomefun · 56-60, M
Chat is not cheating it’s making friendships
Whatever makes you happy 🙂
Havesomefun · 56-60, M
Plenty of people are here to talk
No, you're not doing [i]anything [/i] wrong. You're doing everything [i]right.[/i]

Chatting up with strangers is perfectly fine on SW. It's a safe place to do it.

Sorry about your loneliness.
Let me know if you'd like to chat.
gdon39 · 41-45, M
I think you are just fine. We struggle don’t we.

Would you be open to a chat about anything? You control the topic and I am looking forward to a chat
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
I look at it this way. If you can't turn to your partner when you're feeling lonely, something's wrong with the relationship, but it's not necessarily cheating.
No it's part of the purpose of this social site. Based on the need for membership mutual support.
LRain ·
Its ok to talk to strangers but if you are doing or saying inappropriate things then its inappropriate
Havesomefun · 56-60, M
No iam literally always alone to talk about anything is a a relaxing way
Does it matter what others think? If its fine by you, that's half the battle
Havesomefun · 56-60, M
I chat here because I can and also lonely
Disguised · 56-60, M
If you have to ask then yes...
bhatjc · 41-45, M
What you do if your business miss
Havesomefun · 56-60, M
A talk about anything is the way to go
thedesi123 · 51-55, C
No, not at all.
swirlie · 31-35, F
Your question reminds me of an equivalency when a married girlfriend of mine asked me if I considered it 'cheating on her husband' if she had sex with her secret male lover but he always wore a condom?

Can a woman get pregnant from 'chat sex' I wonder?
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swirlie · 31-35, F
@bhatjc
I have no idea what you're talking about nor do I understand how your comment relates to mine. Was you response suppose to be directed to my post?

 
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