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Is this right, or am I wrong?

I saw a girl of about 14(?) in the theatre on Saturday. She was small, very pretty and wearing a very short clingy "microdress" that barely covered her rear. In a major city, late at night, it just screams "potential rape" to me. I know that's wrong and she should be able to wear whatever, but I do wonder where her parents were to educate her.
Have I got this wrong?
Scribbles · 36-40, F Best Comment
Do people become sexually aroused by skimpy clothing? Sure.

But Rapists don't always care what you are wearing, unless they have a very small window of time. It is not the sexual arousal by looking at a body or clothing that leads to the raping. It's the power trip. It is also why most rapists pick people they know, or people they feel they have a reason to degrade, fuck, and treat like disposable rubbish, or people they can kidnap or get unconsious easily.

Opportunistic molesters might care more about the dress of their victim because they are more interested in molesting without consent and getting away with it then escalating it further. Some take their time, some try to molest quickly. They tend to think they aren't hurting anyone by keeping their penis in their pants or whatever. Which is stupid.

The molesting and rape is because something internally is wrong with them...because they are sexually aroused by idea of no restraints on their social behavior and the opportunity rush and power trip of treating someone like sexual rubbish...an object they can pick up, toss around, manipulate, hurt, break, blackmail, degrade, and throw in a litter bin or on the side of the street when no one is watching when they are done with their "fun" and getting away with it.

Rapists could just as easily target someone wearing pants then a short skirt. But yeah, perverts and molesters abound a short skirt which is concerning enough when you worry about a minor's safety.

Soldiers in some areas of the world and some gang members will be encouraged to rape men and women by an officer or leader and call it mercy by showing power and degrading and hurting them instead of killing them

The problem isn't the clothing in my opinion.

That being said some people make it a problem. What you wear might be used as a weapon against you. Like that court case in Peru in which the judge ruled that red panties was the same as consent. Or a rapist might try to excuse their behavior or gaslight you or convince you that everyone will think you were asking for rape by wearing a skirt.

So weird that the world works this way.
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
@Scribbles I've read, and re-read your contribution: profound.
Scribbles · 36-40, F
@CharlesRomsey Hopefully it helped answer your question. I've wanted to understand the motivations of rape since I was 14 and spent a good deal of time and effort on it.

It's scary the amount of people who believe some people's lives have value but certain other people's lives have less or no value. And then want and justify aggressively degrading and assaulting one group. There is no way to force value once someone has decided you don't matter and has made you a target. You just have to fight.

JustNik · 51-55, F
I never dressed provocatively. Still got raped. Rape is opportunity and power and they don’t give a hang what you’re wearing.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@JustNik this is true. What they are looking for is someone small enough that they think they can overpower. How they are dressed is not a concern.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
What about going to a pool or lake or beach. Are women at those places asking to be raped too?
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
@cherokeepatti That is so gross.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@CharlesRomsey they need to do it to the wrong woman and get their butt beat down for doing it.
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
@cherokeepatti : I never said any woman asked to be raped. It strikes me as the most horrendous and degrading act that can be performed on a human, male or female.
iamelijah · 26-30, M
Rape is wrong but I'd say decent dress would be appropriate in most occasion.

This bugs me why women or girls have to dress revealing too much instead of men/boys?
It's like become obligation for females to show their bodies to attract men.
It's not wrong but the time and place is not always right.
If want to show some skin, at least show at right place. For example, at the beach or swimming place.

Maybe I am prude but I am not seeking attention either. I know revealing too much skin will have unwanted attraction.
I never ever see men dress in revealing way to attract females. Mostly wearing suits.
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@iamelijah
women or girls have to dress revealing too much
What is too much? Too much for what? Why should a woman be censured for revealing a bit of skin? Is a bit of thigh too much, a knee, an ankle, toes? All of those have been regarded as too much for polite society at some time or another, generally by men (and some women) who wish to control not only women's dress but also the rest of their lives.
iamelijah · 26-30, M
@ninalanyon I think certain parts need to be covered. If not thighs, at least around genital area and chest area.
It's about dress code ma'am/sir. I don't think it would be appropriate if you dress revealing at someone's funeral. There is certain rules and places or events where dress code is necessary. And please abide other people's rule without offending them.


Please don't just quote one or two phrase of my words just to start argument. You already dismissed my main point there.
NudeAllTheTime · 41-45, M
If she wants to dress that way and get attention, I don’t necessarily think it’s a bad thing. Having said that, I would hope she was with a group of friends or family and not alone, because of the potential there for danger.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
Young people can make strange choices, but it is still incumbent upon adults to behave decently. Rapists will rape irrespective of the 'provocation'.
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
@SunshineGirl Another poster mentioned that it's for adults to "restrain themselves". The truth of it is, after six pints of wifebeater lager in the downtown area of a major city, I'm not sure it's safe for a young girl dressed provocatively.
Too much to unpack here to just make a comment ... but I'm sure you're not the only person who saw her and though that... or thought SOMEthing sexual
likesnatural · 70-79, M
I don't know about rape, but the attention she gets might depend more on how she acts.
Majorsite · 61-69, M
No Your right, There's too much of that these days with young girls !
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MaryJo1996 · 26-30, F
You've got this very wrong, yes.

 
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