What does it feel like living a life where you aren't lonely?

What it's like...You don't think of other people much, you're content with your own company and actually having people around could annoy you. So...a different set of problems. Also, you might struggle when you need a helping hand because you don't have a bunch of friends to ask for help. Of course, if you're not one of those people who don't mind calling other people only when you need help.

Disclaimer: I am a person who gets bouts of loneliness but I really don't think in terms you do about the New Year and all that. I was alone on NYE once and so far it was one of the best NYE of my life. So peaceful and free.

If you feel like you can't get out of your bed, it sounds more like depression than loneliness though.

I could've typed out this thread word for words a year ago. I know it's hard in your situation. What helped me more than anything was a change of scenery, somewhere where it's easier to find your people.

Even so, making and keeping friendships is work. For everyone. You will always have to reach out to people. You will always have to try to make time when you're tired and busy, so the flame stays alive. Sometimes, you will notice people not doing the work, and on some level, you have to learn not to take that personally. Everyone has their own life and their own struggles, and just as they don't know what you're going through, you don't necessarily know what they're going through.

You're not unlovable. You're probably just too accustomed to the safety of silence and too ask for what you need. I'm here if you want to talk.

It sounds as though someone needs to break through that block of ice you've allowed to grow around you. Here is what I recommend, MOST emphatically! Get up off your derriere and go out and volunteer your time to a worthy cause.

I go to a food pantry every week, and load up my car with food for my neighbors. I find it very rewarding! And more of my neighbors talk to me since I've begun doing it.

YOU might enjoy volunteering at your local animal shelter. Or you might enjoy wheeling wheelchair bound patients to their appointments at your local hospital. A VERY social opportunity is wielding a hammer at your local Habitat for Humanity project.

YOUR volunteer opportunities are here:

https://www.volunteermatch.org/

Click on Opportunities and enter your zip code.

my wife died in 2004 ben living alone, it is peaceful, find things to do, get a job,

I dunno, but developing a good relationship with yourself helps.

Move outside and move ahead..

Try to connect people locally at your area with meetup.com

https://similarworlds.com/experiences/life-lessons/1678668-I-Believe-Life-Is-a-Life-Long-Lesson

Feel free to DM me whenever you like to talk to.

We were made by nature to be in a group and not to live alone

I have never experienced such things in my life and I see more and more people especially the young going into depression due to loneliness.

Find someone to talk to and care for them instead of expecting someone to come to you. And find as many.

I discovered there are worse things than being lonely. For me that’s being a problem to the people I do know. I take loneliness over that.

Well, you need to accept your role as the one to initiate. There's nothing wrong with that.

I agree I cant even vent to ppl ik irl

I hope you find someone..

I miss my dog.

Go out and do things.

With 8.197 billion people in the world, you're bound to meet someone. Hard to avoid actually.

What about Simon?

Your just not picking the right people