What does it feel like living a life where you aren't lonely?

I wonder often, would I be happier if I had people to talk to? I try so hard to make friends and talk to people and it's all great when I'm the one starting conversations, yet if I don't text first it's like I don't even exist. I don't go out anywhere, I stay in my room and rot in my bed feeling like there's something heavy that makes me unable to move out of my bed and I hate that feeling. I spent new years alone and nobody even said anything. I talked to my friends when I was in school but now that it's break..nobody even talks to me anymore. I feel like a complete loser and I stay quiet for too long that it's became hard to speak clearly and I don't know what to do... I just want someone to talk to me and care...

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BlueVeins · 22-25

I could've typed out this thread word for words a year ago. I know it's hard in your situation. What helped me more than anything was a change of scenery, somewhere where it's easier to find your people.

Even so, making and keeping friendships is work. For everyone. You will always have to reach out to people. You will always have to try to make time when you're tired and busy, so the flame stays alive. Sometimes, you will notice people not doing the work, and on some level, you have to learn not to take that personally. Everyone has their own life and their own struggles, and just as they don't know what you're going through, you don't necessarily know what they're going through.

You're not unlovable. You're probably just too accustomed to the safety of silence and too ask for what you need. I'm here if you want to talk.