In another universe, can I get a better mother?

My son use to accuse me of betrayal if I said anything going on with his life as a teenager.
He wanted to control my conversations,that wasn't going to fly.
I'm sure he had plenty of conversations with his friends,that I never inquired about nor interfered with.
I have never once made fun of him or used his life as a good story for a laugh.
That would be abhorrent to me.
He took a lot wrong,made a lot of assumptions ,because of the way he was feeling.
Not saying that's your situation.
I just know parents are not perfect and either are their offspring.
If they are actually making fun of you in front of others, or otherwise,that's uncalled for.

Having had a similar mother, there's no point in wishing for such. There is always other adversities.

The best you can do is to learn to deal with what you are given.

Yes, my own mother was very negative of me, all her life. I learned to ignore the negativity. And later in life, I was able to take care of both her and my father.

On top of the above mom was an alcoholic, all my life until her passing.

My mother was the same. Because I loved her so much, I put up with it. But looking back I think I also really resented her and wished I would have said something to her.
At the end of the day she's your mother and you have to deal with it.

Well maybe ask her nicely not to repeat things and if you know your mom is like this than maybe try to keeps thing to yourself. Yes she should know better but clearly she doesn’t .

I foresee childhood trauma issues down the line. If you feel this way now, it will affect you in the future.

No, in the same universe. You will get a father, and he will be your saviour.

While there is no assurance that you can get a better mother, you already have the opportunity to become a better human and a mother in this life itself. The problem we face today is due to telephony. The worst thing that happened to the world is phone calls being made cheap compared to the days when we had to pay per minute for even local calls. So the stupid old generation do not know the value of time, and sit on each others time and just talk nonsense just to keep the conversation going.

So as a youngster who is looking up to your future, you should learn how to start ignoring things around you, and focus on your career and future.

You can actually act matured by becoming her mother and treat her as a child.. So if she teases you, just smile instead of getting angry and just say "do what makes you happy child" .. and just walkaway. People are bored in life and do not know how to engage their time. So they just try to tease or pull up a fight the moment they see someone.

Even if any of your cousins tease you by saying your mom said this about you .. just laugh it off.

It is all in how you act and react.

I used to wish i had a different family too.. my mom didnt so much make fun of me as attack me with false accusations..

I was like wtf?? But i guess we don't all have the nicest parents in the world unfortunately 😳 such is life