Heartache cannot describe my pain

So sorry that it ended up the way that it did. While everyone’s journey is different, I went through something similar and I have to say the bounce back from such a…the first word that came to mind was betrayal…takes an incredible amount of time to heal. It’s still a very fresh wound for you so unfortunately you’re going to have to welcome every ounce of the pain that comes in order to begin the detachment that needs to come because it is a part of ultimately moving forward with your life. Within the grieving process of the relationship you have to realize that maybe, just maybe you didn’t have the solid relationship that you thought you had despite so many things saying you did. We often disregard the red flags others wave because we’re that blinded by how well they fill a void within and unfortunately we’ve become that dependent on making them happy because it means we don’t have to feel the effects of that void. After the initial grief of losing the relationship, you have to look past the love, mutual benefits, and overall good times the connection entailed and uncover the signs that might’ve screamed how weak the foundation you two built on actually was. It is directing your focus on that that brings about further detachment from the love story your heart and even mind created. But first it’ll royally suck getting to that clarity.

Feel what demands to be felt, but don’t lose yourself in the process. It only adds to her victory that she is continuing to celebrate while knowing she’s hurting you. Knowing that she can do such a thing after everything you two have been through should give you plenty of proof of how little love and respect she actually had for you. It’s a part of the acceptance that needs to come so you can start to pick up the pieces and heal your heart. My heart is still healing and I think given how deep the wound is it’ll be healing for a long time. But remembering how he ultimately made me feel about myself and the time and energy I put into our relationship after I removed the rose-tinted glasses tells me how lucky I am to no longer be tethered to someone like that anymore because I legitimately lost myself to feeding his happiness. And through all the pain and embarrassment that still exists from it I ultimately thank him for revealing what I will no longer accept in my life, and who I will never be again.

You had no relationship. You had an online LDR. If you loved her as you say...........why not do something about it ........like actually be with her? You cannot expect an internet game playing fantasy to last forever. This is the problem with your generation. Online is great....face to face and ACTUALLY conducting a relationship......not so much. You have to expect after 6 years of game playing...she is ready for more. If he lives closer and sees her..........what do you expect?.

So you spend $1,000's of dollars on someone you had never even met in real life?

I just want to know why? Online relationships are not real.

I mean yeah having "friends" online isn't such a bad thing but we don't go sending money or get emotionally invested.

I wonder how her new so-called B/F is going to turn out if he doesn't financially support her?

The only thing I can advise is do not help anyone else who does not deserve it. Too many people WILL take advantage.

It's over. She never wanted to commit to the degree of even meeting you. It wasn't she was too broke to meet you, you were willing to go to her, and she said no, after years and years. That's how much she was actually into you.

I wouldn't bother with her anymore if I was you. Might be time to try meeting real people. Someone attainable, as in a real person you can reach out and touch.

People are not required to stay with you^^ I’m not trying to invalidate your pain, but also what you did was not okay, she was not required to stay, nor did she have to reciprocate. Yes, you are hurt, but you shouldn’t expect things from others, no matter how little.

Unfortunately this wasn't going to end well. You can chat and talk as much as you like it will never be the same as having that someone special there in person. It sounded like you helped each other out for a while but it has got to the point she has moved on and is trying keep you in the background incase it dont work out with this guy.

Dont have regrets you obviously made each other happy at one point. Let this be a big lesson to you for the future. Dont part with ya heart or cash with someone who quiet clearly didnt give you that chance to even meet! Actions always will speak louder than words.

Maybe, just maybe, from her standpoint, maybe too much of your life revolved around her and she felt suffocated by your need for her, and she wanted some breathing room, now and probably forever.

Take a step back and thank her for pulling away from you, so you can find someone that won't find your devotion overwhelming. You were there when she needed you, or needed someone. She apparently no longer feels like she needs you. Better you find this out now rather than later.

It's not you, it's her. You offered her help and comfort at a time when she could not refuse it, but as her condition has changed, she no longer needs you. She does not love you and is interested in other men. A broken heart is a terrible thing to contend with; the only sure cure is time. She is pulling away from you, and it is time you sever your emotional ties to her (or start trying). It's a crappy situation for you, but could you ever really be with her now, knowing she has discarded you after all you have done? As sad as this situation is, you must move on and restart your life.

Heartbreak bites. You're NOT completely destroyed.
It takes time,but consider working on building your esteem back up,finding joy in the little things and forgetting this unhealthy friendship. Cut her off or she will keep taking advantage of you.
Believe it or not eight years won't seem quite so massive in hindsight one day.

Bottom line she was a gold digger and used you emotionally and monetarily. My advice would be to quit talking to her and don't go online where she is. You have to cut the apron strings and move on. Forget her, she isnt worth giving a second thought. And next time you fall for someone, only meet ppl in real life, not online because that's where you find deception, players, users, cruelity and fake ppl. Be strong and don't be so willing the next time to send them money. Bad idea!

Sounds like she farmed you for eight years. You should cut your losses and bail before you find out some devastating truths.

And this is how we learn. 😊

Why didn’t you meet in real life? It sounds like that is what she needed

ive had stuff like that happen, i tried to suffer with grace. it sucks but just be glad you're not wasting your time anymore. she's just made way for your true soulmate.

Bro she used you like s Clorox wipe you're supporting her while she's homeless and still won't meet you? Lmao is that guy a plant to make you insane?

You never met her irl? Sounds like she's scamming you .. have you been sending her money all this time?