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Im not sure what to do…

So i moved back to my home country to be with my boyfriend, but ever since i came back things are not the same, we barely talk, he just seems to have shut me out of updates on his life, he has a new job and knocks off at 5, its hard to ever see him as my mum wont allow me to be out after 7,which makes things more difficult to bond and do stuff…so its hard to see him. I really do not know what to do. I did talk to him about how hes changed since i came back and he didnt respond. Before i came, we would be on the phone for over 4hrs a day,calls and texts all day long,, now i barely get a good morning. When i see him, hes so great, gives me attention, wants to laugh and chill but the minute i go back home he shuts down again. Im confused, annoyed, hurt that i dropped my life to be in this situation and i regret it. Now i cant afford to move back out again. Dealing with being treated like a child at home to being neglected by the person i came for. Im 33 btw.
ABCDEF7 · M
Time to decide how you going to live your life ahead.
in10RjFox · M
@Pinkdove74 what languages do you do translation for?
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@in10RjFox French, Malagasy and English
in10RjFox · M
@Pinkdove74 shall pm you for translation to French.
in10RjFox · M
Awful situation. I think it's better to lay your cards straight. Ask direct if he has any marriage plans or if you can seek alternatives. As you are already 33 no more time for contemplations.
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@in10RjFox true, it does feel like im married to her….. yes, before i came they would hang out, go for lunch and stuff. She even pushed that he comes to visit often before i moved. She didnt mind him coming to stay with me but doesnt want me staying out late under her roof. I feel like shes forcing marriage
in10RjFox · M
@Pinkdove74 could be she doesn't want you getting pregnant before your marriage.
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@in10RjFox then shes a hypocrite because she was fine and encouraging that he comes to visit me but now worried about a 33 yr old being pregnant under her roof
ArtieKat · M
I'm sorry @Pinkdove74 but I'm struggling to grasp how a 33-year-old woman has a 7pm curfew? 🤔
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@ArtieKat exactly my argument.🤯. Iv tried addressing it, it just leads to a fight…. Mind you iv been leaving alone overseas for 8yrs, paying my own bills and solely relying on myself with no parental help.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Why on Earth did you go back?

The boyfriend has children and is dismissive?
- Sounds like a loser, or manipulative. Run away as quickly as possible.

Your mother has you home by 7pm?
- Is she sane? Responsible 10 year olds are playing in the neighborhood later than that.

Listen to neither. Do not get married. Leave.
Convivial · 26-30, F
Move on girl if it's not working
Beth35 · 36-40, F
This sounds very strange
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@Beth35 nope, Africa
Beth35 · 36-40, F
@Pinkdove74 ok maybe it is your culture?
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@Beth35 no shes just being highly unreasonable.
robertsnj · 56-60, M
what country? what kind of job does he have ? Why at age 33 does your mum give you a curfew?
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@robertsnj he has a building maintenance company plus Steel specialists….. well, his new job, i have no idea since i got shut out of communication….. i have curfew because its her house, her rules and doesnt want anyone coming home ‘late’, she doesnt like it and feels it disrespects her house.
Orca4950 · 70-79, M
Why does your mom put a curfew on you?

Ask him why he won't communicate after 7 pm
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
Maybe he has someone else
Pinkdove74 · 31-35, F
@Jenny1234 that has crossed my mind. Iv asked him and told him to be upfront with me if theres other options for him. And he doesnt say
Nayla · 56-60, F
it sounds like he’s doing his own thing
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Time for a discussion.

Thanks for the heart.
Lilymoon · F
Cut the apron strings 🤦🏻‍♀️
babyboy42 · 41-45, M
hi wanna chat messge me in my inbox
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