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Forced coming out??

My sister kept asking me about my sexuality. I told her that I didn't identify myself with any identity because I didn't feel comfortable labelling myself. Then she said "oh yea I get that, but do you imagine yourself with a girl?" I told her "uhm it depends on the person." But she kept kinda pushing the narrative of a girl. I just kept saying it depends on the person. She then said "oh pansexual then?" I told her idk, I don't like labels. It got to the point where I just agreed that I do imagine myself being with a woman (being a woman myself). Though, I can't help but feel a little angered and uncomfortable by the whole situation. Idk what to do or feel tbh.
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
my family does this to my little sister. She has never had an official boyfriend so my family is always teasing her or making remarks about her sexuality. When we were younger I would ask her a question here and there but I never tried to push her.

In our adulthood the other day my mom actually called me on the phone and told me her dad was still harassing her about this issue. My mom stated "we're worried that she might be gay" I told my mom it's none of our business how my sister carries on in her private life and I told her I don't care if she's gay I'll still love her.

This has been going on my sisters' entire life with my family picking on her. I always defend her against my parents. Personally, in my opinion, it's none of their damn business and respectfully it's none of your family or sister's business either. Family is supposed to support you not pick on and humiliate you
LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M
@DeluxedEdition OMG! I love you for standing up for your sister! (In a totally platonic way, don't worry. ;) ) 🥰🥰🥰

I nominate you for Best Sister of the Year! 🤗🤗🤗🤗
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@congomystuffedcorgi] 🤔has your sister ever heard the expression mind your own business . what your orientation is your affair and nobody else she needs too butt out
fakable · T
next time, answer "yes" with confidence.

because...

if you saw me, you wouldn't be able to resist my charms.

yeah...

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riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
You done rhe right thing what you said .
At your age and describing what you said " that you don't like labeling yourself , you feel uncomfortable "
Thats one of the best answers i heard of at a woman your age .
Will i tell you why ? You don't like labels .
Do you know people are running and racing around for everybody " good or bad" on labels they put on themselves or labels they put on others and there miserable and feel miserable .
Congratulations with that answer .
Brilliant answer 😊.
[quote]"uhm it depends on the person."[/quote]

That's exactly as it should be, no matter the gender of the person.

Possibly the easiest form of defence right now would be the "I found this conversation to be confrontational - so I said anything to shut you up".

1) It's not wrong - she was confrontational.
2) You are still young enough to be figuring yourself out - Why should you have to accept labels that a) don't matter anyway and b) may or may not fit you???

Take all the time you need - and don't let others try to force you into one camp or the other. If you go, go because you want to and not because someone tells you that it's best for you.
drymer · 56-60, M
Maybe your sister wants to come out and was trying to see if you were "in the same page" so she could talk about it...?
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Dshhh · M
we DO NOT Need to "choose a side"
be what you feel, act on that, reject lables
Lostpoet · M
She's just being annoying and maybe she's questioning her own sexuality or she wants to be the good favorite if your parents are religious.
ABCDEF7 · M
Don't let someone push you into thinking in a particular way. I would have just said whatever(till then) I have felt(comfortably).
Isthisit · F
Your sister was being overly pushy. You shouldve walked away from her if you didnt want to answer her. You had every right to.
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
Read my story, the perfect man, or have her read it. It's in my profile under the snowflake.
SW-User
Not wanting to label oneself almost probably means bisexual. Straight and out gay people will identify as what they are. Feeling uncomfortable and angry is a sign as well. However your sister could be questioning her sexuality herself as straight people are far less likely to ask.
@SW-User Not necessarily... I'm not female or male - yet I haven't chosen what my pronouns should be. I don't need them, they're just another box constructed by society and I'm still a person with or without them.

It's possible that she might not have figured out what her sexuality is yet - but, being forced out of the closet before you are ready would be an upsetting experience for anyone. Which could explain why she's feeling angry and upset.

Just imagine that you have someone pressuring you to announce that you are in a relationship with someone in the early days, when you aren't sure if this person is right for you. You're still working on feeling him/her out yourself - yet now you're being pressured to admit that you are in a relationship.
dale74 · M
Don't worry about it just go with the flow the young people thing you have to decide so young most people a few years ago did not even have sex till late teens early 20s
It sounds like maybe [b]she[/b] wants to come out. If so, and she wants to talk about it, that’s one conversation. But [b]your[/b] sexuality is none of her business. You’re completely within your rights to tell her so, and that you don’t wish to discuss it.
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
Sounds like your sister has mental issues.
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