Forced coming out??

My sister kept asking me about my sexuality. I told her that I didn't identify myself with any identity because I didn't feel comfortable labelling myself. Then she said "oh yea I get that, but do you imagine yourself with a girl?" I told her "uhm it depends on the person." But she kept kinda pushing the narrative of a girl. I just kept saying it depends on the person. She then said "oh pansexual then?" I told her idk, I don't like labels. It got to the point where I just agreed that I do imagine myself being with a woman (being a woman myself). Though, I can't help but feel a little angered and uncomfortable by the whole situation. Idk what to do or feel tbh.

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SW-User

Not wanting to label oneself almost probably means bisexual. Straight and out gay people will identify as what they are. Feeling uncomfortable and angry is a sign as well. However your sister could be questioning her sexuality herself as straight people are far less likely to ask.

HootyTheNightOwl

@SW-User Not necessarily... I'm not female or male - yet I haven't chosen what my pronouns should be. I don't need them, they're just another box constructed by society and I'm still a person with or without them.

It's possible that she might not have figured out what her sexuality is yet - but, being forced out of the closet before you are ready would be an upsetting experience for anyone. Which could explain why she's feeling angry and upset.

Just imagine that you have someone pressuring you to announce that you are in a relationship with someone in the early days, when you aren't sure if this person is right for you. You're still working on feeling him/her out yourself - yet now you're being pressured to admit that you are in a relationship.