I Need to Vent

@SW-User Hmm, well sometimes it seems that some are constantly here lol.

Hey, as long as you enjoy it, that's what matters. Drowning in 🎶 music sounds like one good way to go lmao. I like listening to other's play guitar and love hearing the sax!

@JerseyGal I used to play sax, but I sold mine a few years ago. I just didn't have the interest in it that I once did.

Some people live here, more than they live outside of here. I forget to turn my light off sometimes, and people get mad because I don't respond to them.lol I don't take "here" as seriously as some people think I should I guess. I do like to meet people and have conversations and in some cases, make a new friend. I am always open to friendship.

@SW-User I used to play clarinet, but lost interest too.

I do turn my light on at times, but more often, I don't. Same as you, people would get upset if I didn't reply and my light was on. At night, I'd fall asleep and leave it on. It happens. 🤷

I'm always open to friendship also. Especially when I find that there's actual conversation! ☺

@SW-User @seeandhear That really is sad.
I guess I'll be filling my blocks up then. If someone is that disrespectful and can't even read before messaging or assuming, then I want no contact with them.

@SW-User Yet some just do not care. 😑

@JerseyGal But we do and have to enforce them by our actions.
I refuse to engage with those who disrespect or try to step over my boundaries.
I may give one warning that should be good if not apparently they are someone who is never going to be respectful so bye, bye

@Fantabulous It's crazy. I'll have to check out your little rant too. I just get aggravated when I've made it clear.

@seeandhear Where we're able to put those couple of lines on our profile, it wouldn't let me put in bold.
Under about me though I do. ☺

@DragonFruit It gets old. If some want to make this their adult playground, that's their choice. But they need to stop trying to push it on others.

@DancingStarGoddess Exactly. I get tired of assumptions. If they are going to send a message, at least take time to check out profile. 🙄

@JerseyGal exactly!

@Peaches I know my friend. I don't ask for much. But if someone is going to message me or communicate on posts, at least be respectful. We don't have to agree, but also don't need to be rude about it. 🤗

@JerseyGal If someone doesn't like a post I don't know why they just don't comment at all?!😏

@Fungirlmmm Which is great my friend. Also, even if some on here are not with anyone, that doesn't mean or warrant that they want pictures or to "play".

@JerseyGal oh that's very true.

@Livingwell Thank you for understanding. I just am courteous and have been taught that "no means no". No questions asked.

I hope you have a great day too! 🤗

@sassypants Thank you so much! There really is a lack of respect towards other's boundaries here. It's why I've made it clear from the beginning, which is what makes it more frustrating.

Those members that message you have a certain agenda and never take the time to even read your profile or find out anything about you. I am getting more accustomed to not replying and blocking them.

@sassypants Same here. I have found that if someone really wants to message me to chat, learn more first by reading my about me or take the time to read my message that comes up before they message me. If they do not have time for that, I have no time for their nonsense. 😌

@revenant Thank you!

@LeopoldBloom Thing is just because a site may be anonymous does not excuse a person's behavior. It does not excuse anyone to harass or abuse another. That's what it is coming to because if they get called on their behavior, they cry out about freedom of speech.

@JerseyGal I agree, people shouldn't use anonymity as an excuse to act like trolls. The point of anonymity on EP and here was to allow people to share personal, private stories without fear of retaliation or embarrassment. I don't have a problem with that. It also gives people an opportunity to express opinions that would land them in serious trouble in certain countries.

That is the positive aspect and is the objective of free speech. The drawback is people being anonymous assholes. I'm not sure how to limit that. Quora makes it easy to report people who violate the BNBR guidelines. SW has a report feature but I've never used it and I don't know how effective it is. I have seen one profile that had a header saying something to the effect that the user was on notice for posting nude photos in a public area. I don't know if you can report people for being rude however.

Also, "free speech" generally refers to freedom under the First Amendment, where the government cannot take action against you for expressing an unpopular opinion. It doesn't mean that you're entitled to a venue, however. SW is a private business and they can limit users' posts however they want.

@MrEMann Really, it's not even all about reading other's "about me" sections. It's more about being respectful and sadly, there's not much of that online or in real.
I definitely have a thick skin, thank you for the suggestion though. I've been on here and EP for 10 years now. I'm not going anywhere. This post is basically just putting my opinion out there. Too bad there's too many selfish people around that care only about themselves.
Thanks for your comment.

You're quite welcome. And I wasn't trying to be critical. I also understand the value in venting. My comments are meant to help someone get to a better place where things can more easily roll off their backs and the need to vent becomes infrequent.

I'm gonna use another traffic analogy here...

We can allow our blood pressure to rise when that driver cuts too close in front of us without using a signal. Or, we can simply pump our brakes and avoid an accident and realize this is all a part of driving.

Simply, it does a person good to expect less of others, especially strangers. Actually, it's a lot less frustrating when we expect them to behave improperly.

It's like this...

Would that cool, breezy, summer day feel as good if we didn't have those crappy, gloomy, snowy, slushy days to compare them to? The same holds true for people, maybe even more so. Those self-absorbed fools shine light on our truly good friends.

@Subsumedpat Basic respect should be given to anyone we encounter on the internet or anywhere else.
Saying it is the internet like that is an excuse to be an ass grinds my gears a bit.

@SW-User I agree. That's the problem. Too many use excuses to do things here they would never do to someone in person. Then say "well, it's the Internet; it's expected". That is very disrespectful.
For me, it's common courtesy here or any other site, just like it should be if seeing someone in person.
Free exchange of thought is everywhere ... That does not excuse assinine behavior.

@JerseyGal I agree totally

@clamenza Thank you! Sighs, I just wish I didn't even have to! 😕

@JerseyGal I know .. it’s just not right

@TimSummers Thank you very much for saying that!!!

@Waymor Thank you so much!

@496sbc Speaking the truth!

@JerseyGal ik im just shocked 😮. With whats going on. U know

@YoMomma I can understand why. 🙄😔

Lol

@BigGuyOld Thank you!

@blazingrahul Thank you!

@Chickie I have info on my profile too, but the problem is that too many will not read. They need to. This site is turning way too much into an adult poem type site and that's a shame.

@JerseyGal Well if they do not know what en and oh stand for, why on earth should one waste ones time on some sadistic scum that has most probably been washed ashore from some other undesirable site.

@wickey I won't waste my time, but the mute option does work well too. Since there are only so many blocks available, I use those when I feel I have no choice.

@JerseyGal OK. Noted.

@Doctrble Not you silly! 🤗

@JerseyGal haha