I Need to Vent

I get tired of having to set boundaries here or anywhere else.

I do NOT consider this to be a place I come to collect adult friends to 'play' with or exchange anything other than conversation.

When I have made sure that I have my profile 'About Me' set up, I feel it is rude to be inboxed for anything other than friendship!
Big sigh. Rant/vent over!
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LeopoldBloom · M

One reason is that SW is an anonymous site, so people feel less inhibited. You won't find those same attitudes on Facebook or Quora since users have to use their real names on those sites.

JerseyGal · 56-60, F

@LeopoldBloom Thing is just because a site may be anonymous does not excuse a person's behavior. It does not excuse anyone to harass or abuse another. That's what it is coming to because if they get called on their behavior, they cry out about freedom of speech.

LeopoldBloom · M

@JerseyGal I agree, people shouldn't use anonymity as an excuse to act like trolls. The point of anonymity on EP and here was to allow people to share personal, private stories without fear of retaliation or embarrassment. I don't have a problem with that. It also gives people an opportunity to express opinions that would land them in serious trouble in certain countries.

That is the positive aspect and is the objective of free speech. The drawback is people being anonymous assholes. I'm not sure how to limit that. Quora makes it easy to report people who violate the BNBR guidelines. SW has a report feature but I've never used it and I don't know how effective it is. I have seen one profile that had a header saying something to the effect that the user was on notice for posting nude photos in a public area. I don't know if you can report people for being rude however.

Also, "free speech" generally refers to freedom under the First Amendment, where the government cannot take action against you for expressing an unpopular opinion. It doesn't mean that you're entitled to a venue, however. SW is a private business and they can limit users' posts however they want.