[c=#BF0080]I get tired of having to set boundaries here or anywhere else.
I do [b]NOT[/b] consider this to be a place I come to collect adult friends to 'play' with or exchange anything other than conversation.
When I have made sure that I have my profile 'About Me' set up, I feel it is rude to be inboxed for anything other than friendship! Big sigh. Rant/vent over! 😔🙄[/c][/center]
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To expect others to NOT push your boundaries is setting yourself up for endless frustration, ESPECIALLY online. Many, many, many people are here simply to indulge in and serve their own personal desires, with little to no interest in anyone else's wants, needs or desires. Heck, some are just here simply to push others buttons. They're called trolls.
To expect others to read your "About Me" entry and respect your boundaries is like putting a "Back Off!" bumper sticker on your car and expecting people not to tailgate you in traffic. Do yourself a favor and expect the worst of people, especially online. This attitude is not pessimistic, it's realistic. I've seen countless people metaphorically take their ball and go home because others don't play fair. You gotta develop a thick skin if you hooe to survive any online community.
@MrEMann Really, it's not even all about reading other's "about me" sections. It's more about being respectful and sadly, there's not much of that online or in real. I definitely have a thick skin, thank you for the suggestion though. I've been on here and EP for 10 years now. I'm not going anywhere. This post is basically just putting my opinion out there. Too bad there's too many selfish people around that care only about themselves. Thanks for your comment.
You're quite welcome. And I wasn't trying to be critical. I also understand the value in venting. My comments are meant to help someone get to a better place where things can more easily roll off their backs and the need to vent becomes infrequent.
I'm gonna use another traffic analogy here...
We can allow our blood pressure to rise when that driver cuts too close in front of us without using a signal. Or, we can simply pump our brakes and avoid an accident and realize this is all a part of driving.
Simply, it does a person good to expect less of others, especially strangers. Actually, it's a lot less frustrating when we expect them to behave improperly.
It's like this...
Would that cool, breezy, summer day feel as good if we didn't have those crappy, gloomy, snowy, slushy days to compare them to? The same holds true for people, maybe even more so. Those self-absorbed fools shine light on our truly good friends.
