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Should Funeral Homes Be Selling Alcohol Drinks At Funerals?

There’s a young man who applied for a liquor license who owns a funeral home. He wants to sell drinks to the mourners. Can’t imagine it livening up the place since alcohol generally doesn’t cheer up a mourner. And what about the liability of drinking and driving afterwards? This guy lives in Columbus, Ohio.

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being · 36-40, F

It can be cathartic. But also, terrible things can happen, as the energies around mourning people are intense. Accidents too.

I've gotten drunk just right after funerals of beloved ones myself. Tricky..

It helps with the pain, to either numb it or let it out, ex-press it..

Also something very rarely is spoken, is about sexual energy after a funeral. Pretty high, because it's activated as a survival mechanism and people can make mistakes that later regret. I was pretty lucky to be advised by a friend. Right after the funeral of an ex boyfriend, his best friend was hitting on me.
If I didn't have that friend to guide and advise me, I was very vulnerable at the time. And drunk.

I'm so and so about it.

MarineBob · 56-60, M

@being gotta be best answer

MarineBob · 56-60, M

Lots of variables there if you own a funeral home you cant own a gas station. Should a pastor be allowed a liquor license. The Catholic church holds neary 5000 liquor, licenses and has at least 6 pot licenses here

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MarineBob · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti here it is actually illegal for a minor to take out the trash if there's an empty beer can or bottle in it. Hell dad made me break the law years ago, girlfriends dad was the county sheriff and he did too

Thrust · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti the Marriot Hotel Empire

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Thrust Sodexho has food service contracts for hospitals, casinos and schools here. The food sucked so bad at the casino buffet that we stopped going even if offered coupons for free dinners. They eventually lost their contract, the casino got the message. The boy stopped eating in the school cafeteria in 3rd grade because of the low quality. Said I could make better lunches.

nobodyishome · 31-35, F

It's none of our business. People have different ways of grieving, and we are nobody to judge.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@nobodyishome You don’t get the point. This is a public gathering. There may be people who may be on the wagon and they don’t need to be tempted or surrounded by those who are drinking. Plus it can intensify emotions. Some people can’t handle alcohol well and lose their tempers easily when drinking. So many unintended consequences

nobodyishome · 31-35, F

@cherokeepatti ah, I understand

BizSuitStacy · M

I agree...not the place for a funeral home.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

His intentions may be good, but fundamentally this isn’t the place to sell alcohol..

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Quimliqer No it isn’t, very disrespectful to be that greedy. If people want to meet up at someone’s house or at a bar and have a drink after the funeral is finished then they could do that.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Quimliqer I know that some funeral home owners are very greedy but to do this on top of what they make is over the top. Wouldn’t trust someone like that not to steal the rings or other jewelry that they were going to put on the deceased to bury them with.

Adrift · 61-69, F

I know of people who would actually buy them.
Any time for some people is a good time to pop a cool one.

Gibbon · 70-79, M

I have never seen that and don't want to. It doesn't take much thought to understand why it's a bad idea.

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

They have at the last few I've been to.

GerOttman · 61-69, M

The difference between an Irish wake and an Irish wedding?

One less drunk!

It's a niche market but it could catch on..

Thrust · 56-60, M

@GerOttman in cities with walkup apartments (Boston, NY) the alpha males of the Irush wakes (often mobsters) will bring the corpse around to elderly mourner's apartments to let them say goodbye

GerOttman · 61-69, M

@Thrust I've often thought Uber should be in the funeral business.

Thrust · 56-60, M

@GerOttman No reason it can't. They can add guys to carry the corpse

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

Please no 🤦‍♀

Thrust · 56-60, M

See the CALI funeral homes that are drive-thru?

PoetryNEmotion · F

Can you imagine how many fights would happen? How many people would be arrested? All the damages? No. It would not be a good idea.

Thrust · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion

You know someone would make off with the corpse

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@PoetryNEmotion Tensions can be high with some families after a love one passes away. Some of them may not even get together for holidays etc but may go to funerals. I can see where getting a little alcohol in them could let down their guard where they make remarks and get fights going. I went to a funeral where a drunk relative loudly cried and talked to the deceased and made a huge scene. It was disturbing and sad that he did that.

DragonFruit · 61-69, M

In New York, it's not allowed to sell alcohol at a funeral parlor.

robertsnj · 56-60, M

it is a business. guess that parlor feels like they can make money from selling 🍹

i think any 🍷establishment has a drinking and driving issue including all bars.

BrandNewMan · M

Seems a very bad idea

Thatsright · 61-69, M

Next to the funeral home.

ineedadrink · 51-55, M

This sounds totally sleazy and low class.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@ineedadrink There was an incident at a funeral of a loved one. Her nephew had an alcohol problem. He came to the funeral drunk. When attendees were lined up and viewing the body he starts talking extremely loud and crying and going on & on in front of everyone. This went on several minutes. The widow of the deceased man got tore up about how he acted and talked to us about it later.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

This is the owner, he looks like a kid still. Claims he is a party planner for dead people.

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MarineBob · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti hell I wouldn't pay him to move a keg

NativePortlander1970

@cherokeepatti Party planner for dead people? Massively disrespectful attitude.

TryingtoLava

@cherokeepatti yaaaaa thats pretty much what i was picturing some selfish grifting bro

TryingtoLava

Thats like opening a weed store next to a rehab :| he knows 100% hes gona get rich off emotional pain

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@TryingtoLava That is a good way of putting it.

HumanEarth · F

That's sounds very careless, reckless and that man has no class

MethDozer · M

You know how many funerals I been to that were held in a. Irish, Polish, VFW, Legion, or Lodge bar?

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@MethDozer no, how many?

MethDozer · M

@cherokeepatti more than I have been at w church or funeral home

Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@MarineBob There was a man who worked at the Air Force base and he said there was a guy he worked with that was southern Baptist, extremely religious. The guys would play dominoes in their break area at lunch. One day this man walked up and kicked the domino board off of the barrel it was sitting on and tried accusing them of gambling. All because they were playing a game. I’ve suspected that the rash of threats called into the casino when it was new & would get it closed down till the police cleared it had a religious person doing it. Never heard of anyone getting caught but it stopped eventually.

MarineBob · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti but they say god hears and knows all

NativePortlander1970

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MarineBob · 56-60, M

@NativePortlander1970 each infraction should have a consequence, that company recieved over 200 citations for serving under age should they still be in business. They're based out of England. Employees get student pay while they are selling 70cent beer for 14 bucks

NativePortlander1970

@MarineBob Again, WHAT does YOUR reaction have to do with my comment?

MarineBob · 56-60, M

@NativePortlander1970 in all actuality it probably doesn't but I vented

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@oldguy73 then get his butt sued off and he will go out of business

oldguy73 · 70-79, M

@cherokeepatti nope just like regular bars, lots of people got killed leaving all open, long as you tell them you have to stiop read ny liqour laws

MarineBob · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti yeahs, like no one ever stops by 7-11 after clossing time. Hell I've argued with bartenders about the clock being 15 minutes fast

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