Accepting defeat.

You have a choice to end the abuse, but you do not need to end your life in order to find peace. You are enough and you have finally recognized that and you won't put up with anymore. That's a good thing. We are not meant to stay in a relationship that is abusive or breaks our heart. Now you can take the children and be free. I've been through that every bit of it and you're doing the right thing. You're stronger and braver than you think. The problem is not with you and the children. The problem is that he doesn't recognize what he has, nor values it. He sounds narcissistic. No one needs to stay and be abused. Get out and never look back and never let him find you again. This is what will be best for the children. You definitely do deserve better and you will have it. I was in your place once and I left with the children and had no money but about 20 bucks to my name and I made it. So can you. You can do this and I'm very proud of you for standing up for yourself and the children. I will be praying for you. You will be fine. What seems like defeat, is not. It's the beginning of a brand new life away from the abuse.🌹🙏🙏🙏🫂🫂🫂

Its not the end of the world. Just like you both walked into each others lives, its a revolving door and you can walk out. I did it! And i would not change it for the world! Every moment, second, minute, day, week and year that you spend in an unhappy relationship could be time better spent on the life that you deserve. You deserve to be happy. Marriage is not supposed to be stressful, or miserable. You should be happy in love having the time of your life right now. He's supposed to be your safety net making you feel safe. Even when times get hard your 1st thought should be well I'm not alone he's here to make it all better to ease your pain, that you can get through anything together. if you aren't feeling that way then you are wasting your life right now. you can be unhappy and miserable by yourself!

It has nothing to do with being enough, trying harder, being more patient, giving it time.

If the person you try to rehabilitate refuses to cooperate, it’s more like you’re in handcuffs and a gag.

You cannot help someone who cannot/will not accept it.

I know. I tried for 19 1/2 years.

You should look into Italy. I hear housing is reasonable, good climate, the language is easy to learn I'm told. Seriously, if it's what you want put your heart and at least a thousand miles into it.

Life is change.

And if any don't change, change will still change things for them.

It's the direction of change that matters the most.

So you change the situation for you, for the better. That change will effect him as well. Yet it's up to him in which direction that change will take for him.

His lack of changing is certainly not on you. You have changed for you.

Just a different perspective. HTH.

"It hurts so deeply to know that sometimes loving someone is not enough. That sometimes you are not enough."
You are not alone.
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Good luck to you.

Takes a lot of strength and courage to face a problem head on and take action. I wish you and your family all the best.

You have a choice to end the abuse, but you do not need to end your life in order to find peace. You are enough and you have finally recognized that and you won't put up with anymore.

Been there and done that. Stay true to yourself and your children

You love someone despite their flaws
He won't find perfection anywhere.
People shouldn't be judged in such away.
Good enough?
If someone feels that way about you,maybe they ain't good enough.

Write to me privately if you need to. Tell me what your plans are please.

Look after you....self love first. You are enough, never doubt that.

You put in....he is not. You can't change anything or anyone but yourself.

You are enough.

i hope he doesn't own any guns

So what are you talking about doing here?