When I am upset I don't like to be touched He asked for me to hug him last night and I said no....

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

You're not alone, I don't like the be in the same room as someone who has invalidated me, much less touch them.

My parents used to make my brother and I hug it out. We also had to hug and kiss extended relatives we rarely saw even when we didn't want to. My childhood experience consequently was interpreted at that age that my body didn't belong to me and the was carried into my adulthood and lead to allowing unhealthy dynamics with toxic partners.

DancingStarGoddess ·

When I'm upset I want to be left alone too. I just want to be left to do my thing until I have some time to cool down. It's usually a heavily pensive and introspective time for me as well.

ShadowSister · 51-55, F

These are the best conversations to have before you are angry, so that when you are actually angry, he understands to give you space. Anything can work if you have sufficient communication.

Ontheroad · M

Nope, not awful at all... pretty normal to feel that way. We need time and space to sort things out.

deadgerbil · 26-30, M

That's fine. People need space after a big disagreement

Classified · M

It sounds pretty normal feel that way

Pinkstarburst · F

You said the ‘L’ word?!?!?!

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

Nope. Not awful. Not unusual.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

When I'm triggered I want to push everyone away. I'm not in the right mind to share the space with anyone let alone anybody touch me. I think everybody should respect the need of others to be alone and let them cool down.

Doomflower · 41-45, M

Most of the time it makes me feel overstimulated.

Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F

You're not bad for it at all! I'm the same! My partner has trouble getting it through his thick skull sometimes and I'll literally see red if gets pushy about touching me when I'm pissed. In fact just this morning he almost got a smack for waltzing in the kitchen singing and dancing trying to grab my butt when I was up with a headache and a fussy baby! 😂

It's just a boundary some people have...make it clear to him when you're not mad that you really need him to respect that!

MethDozer · M

I think most people are like that. To varying degrees to each situation anyway.

It's not awful at all it's just keeping.... IDK the integrity of intimacy I guess is a way to put it.