When I am upset I don't like to be touched

He asked for me to hug him last night and I said no. I told him I love him but I'm upset and I would not hug him right now

Is that awful?

Do others feel this way when upset?

I find it very hard to want to let the person that is upsetting me touch me

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Starcrossed · 41-45, F

You're not alone, I don't like the be in the same room as someone who has invalidated me, much less touch them.

My parents used to make my brother and I hug it out. We also had to hug and kiss extended relatives we rarely saw even when we didn't want to. My childhood experience consequently was interpreted at that age that my body didn't belong to me and the was carried into my adulthood and lead to allowing unhealthy dynamics with toxic partners.