Is it possible to have death without sorrow, separation without pain ?

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Matt85 · 36-40, M

Not in my experience.

Adrift · 61-69, F

Yeah, I felt that my mother was released from her tortured body when she went.
I was there with her and she slipped away peacefully.

BizSuitStacy · M

Sometimes it can come as a relief if the decedent was suffering. It's still sad though.

Stillwaiting · M

My grandmothers both had alzheimers. By the time they passed, neither had been even a bit of themselves for sometime. I can't say it came without any sorrow, but we had all grieved their loss well before they passed. They were both fiercely independent, strong minded women. Neither would have wanted to have lived a day of the life left for them in their final year.

hartfire

Only if one is not attached to the person who is gone.
A few people don't attach, for quite a few different reasons.

Nothing is permanent, so whomever one loves one day passes, or must feel the pain of our own passing.
Similarly, whatever we dislike also one day disappears.

But we learn less in a thousand uncountable ways if we try to avoid any of it.

JovialMoose · 46-50, M

Is that why you were traveling? I’m sorry if you lost someone close.

If someone put a lot of effort into distancing themselves from me and I felt no part of them… there is a chance I would feel no sorrow or pain.

elafina · 36-40, F

@JovialMoose I've have had my losses, but l found out loss is inherent in every thing.
Every sunset is a loss and every departure.
It's spacial, or timespacial. A distancing that, if the attachment isn't flexible/healthy, is going to feel like a stretching that eventually rips apart parts.

4meAndyou · F

Yes. For example, when my mother finally died I felt so much relief I thought I might float away. Years later, having worked through my forgiveness of various things, I finally managed to feel sorrow, and even shed a couple of tears.

PoetryNEmotion · F

Yes. I have tended to dying people. There was no sorrow at times. They were in such psin thst death was welcomed. It brought peace. Yes to the second. Sometimes a cleab break is healthy. Toxicity is harmful.

DiegoWolfe · 36-40

Yup if you fucking hated your gran from the second you found out about what a raging hypocritical Queef she was the day before she passed then you can totally not feel sorrow or loss at a death

thinkingoutloud · F

Yes.
Sometimes the charge between two people has diffused enough for there to be no big feelings. The sorry and pain has probably been felt in smaller doses over time.