What secret did your parents keep from you?

That's tough to find out.

My wife was a teenager when she found her parents had an older child who died just after childbirth.
But I can imagine that's a topic that's hard to discuss. My wife was youngest of three. She could have thought, "If Deborah lived you'd never have had me"
Daft but I can see why family stuff is not discussed at times.

I don't know of any secret kept from me.

My grandma was very strict about marriage, sex relations etc, very church orientated. When she died and I helped mum and my aunt find all the papers... Found she was born out of wedlock and their grandad hadn't really been their grandad at all.

When my Mother wanted to remarry we had this whole conversation about how much ‘easier it would be if us kids (2) were adopted by hubby #2 and changed our surname to the same as hubby #2’.

Wasn’t keen for a host of reasons but in discussion with my younger brother, late nights after we’d gone to bed, we decided it was ultimately about whatever made my Mother happy.

Which of course it wasn’t but that tells you something about how manipulative she was !

So off I go to Secondary school with this new name I disliked.
Spent six years at school and in every aspect of life from school through to medical stuff to working life using my adoptive name until one day I make the fateful decision to get married.

At which point we go to the Registrar to fill out our bans (you have to have an official form filled out with your full name; D.o.B etc. so it can be put on display for all to see in the Registry office the idea being that if anyone objects they can register their objection prior to the ‘main event’ and if found valid you can’t get married)

And when the Registrar went to check on the details she came back some time later and said there never was an adoption !

Sorry to hear that, big guy... My mom had twins die at childbirth before me but she only mentioned it once. \: ANYWAY!! My mom kept quite a doozy from her kids... Her dad sexually molested her AND her sister when they were young but never told us... Kinda screwed me up not gonna lie since me and my sisters were around him a lot so anything could've happened.... But, grandfather died about 8 years before she told us so.. Eh, can't really get mad about it now I guess... Still kinda messed up though...

Themselves. They didn't raise me.

I found out that my father was going around telling everyone that it was my mum who had the drinking and physical abuse problem.
He still claims it to this day.
Clearly it wasn't true as we kids witnessed stuff.
But he came out with this bullshit a couple of years ago that he said was a secret.
Absolute lies.

From my mum? I think it was only when I hit 15 that I realised that she had a pimp...

SJD x

It's still a secret