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Developed a crush on another woman.

I have been straight all my life and I’m even married with a child. I have recently noticed that I developed a bit of a crush with another woman. She is lesbian and married to a woman. Of course I will not take any action on this crush but it’s the first time I have ever had a crush on a woman before. I noticed I get a bit of butterflies when she is about to come in the room. Has anyone else developed feelings for the same gender for the first time as an adult? Why is this?
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zonavar68 · 56-60, M
It hasn't happened to me (towards another man or couple) but it's good that you are recognising your feelings and knowing you need to manage them appropriately.

I can't say that it won't ever happen but I feel bi-curious.
I have experienced many twists and tuens in my desires over the decades. So i think our feelings and desires can change over time, and there is nothing wrong with that. Our labels like straight or gay and so on are helpful if they help us be comfortable with ourselves, but they don't define or limit who we are.
ZigMel · 56-60, F
Definitely yes.
I was married now we live together as “friends with benefits …occasionally”

I work for a Universitt and have to be strait-laced and professional even though we wear casual clothes. A mature student joined the team for work experience. A slim, fit, 1.6m tall black girl with tattoos and dreadlocks wearing leather waiscoat over a tight t-shirt and tight jeans. She was a gang member that wanted more opportunities.
Gos she was so hot and I was married at the time. What a shock it was that way.about another woman.

She flirted with me and I lived int- confused about whether I read out friendship right, but I had read it right and she kissed - passionately - me in a storeroom and I let her, wanted her to, maybe invited it.
Now I’ve not looked back.
Jayghost · 51-55, M
No, I'm completely straight and I've never felt attraction for another man. But I think it's great that you have an attraction for another woman. Are you so sure you won't do anything about it? I think you should talk to her about it. Have you said anything to your husband? If so, what did he say?
Aurora91 · 31-35, F
@Jayghost I am certain I won’t say anything. My plan is to hope it doesn’t last long and if it gets stronger try and keep some distance.
DareToSayIT · 31-35, M
I can’t say I have, but some people irrespective of their gender make you feel better about youself. I had deep admiration for them.
val70 · 51-55
It's quite natural. Don't worry about it. Why are feelings there? Well, all sorts of reasons. For one you like the person that well. Two, there's a deep emotional or intellectual connect. Yet another issue is that the person hits your stimili buttons all at once. And finally, you have been around the person that much to know that he or she has your back
Nightwings · 31-35, F
I was in my early 20s when I developed feelings for a girl, really strong ones too. Before that I was only in relationships with guys, but did make out with girls sometimes, which never made me uncomfortable. I am basically asexual unless I'm in love so I never felt attracted to either the girls or guys I made out with before, hence I didn't know before I fell in love with a girl. Turns out I actually have a lot more romantic interest in women than in men. 😅
DViper97 · 51-55, M
One of my brothers first wife developed the same for a woman. Ended up choosing the woman over him and the children. I know it happens.
Aurora91 · 31-35, F
@DViper97 sorry to your brother
DViper97 · 51-55, M
@Aurora91 it’s ok, they have remained friends but she is still with women exclusively now.
Yourdarlingstar · 22-25
I think it’s good to acknowledge the feelings but not act on them, it’s fine to embrace them and it’s better to feel comfortable with it than to stew on it and feel like you have no outlet.
Infatuations are normal, we’re only human. Not worth the risk of losing or disrupting your family.
Yes, too, have had feelings for women, just like you!
Ravens80 · 46-50, F
It happened to me 7 years ago. It can be an absolute emotional roller coaster.
aran1 · 36-40, M
Same gender is fun.
I turned around 1.5 yr ago and love it
Sexuality is on a spectrum. Even people with the same sexualities don't experience their attractions in the same way
JesseInTX · 51-55, M
Finding a person of the same sex attractive is natural. Acting on it is a while different thing. Whether it’s just sexual attraction or a deeper form of attraction such as developing feelings and romance
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
You are experiencing a very common phenomenon.
Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M
I haven’t, but I’ve heard it’s fairy common with women.
666Maggotz · F
I’ve experienced attraction to women since I was a small child
It is IMMORAL to have such thoughts towards another person's wife. You will be dealt with for Adultery.

 
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