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How do you know if you're ugly?

Haven't been with a woman in years that's not a good sign. I don't want a girlfriend or sex or anything like that but sometimes it would be nice to sleep next to someone.
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Well, we tend to work out over time where we fit on the scale of mass appeal. Some people are always getting hit on and for some it rarely ever happens, if ever. So that tells you something, but it doesn't tell you specifically if you are physically unappealing or whether there is some other quality about you that puts people off. You can be attractive but timid, nervous, awkward, intimidating, etc. You can be of average looks and have those qualities too, meaning that you could quite likely get dates if you didn't have those other qualities. It's pretty hard to say definitively. Then there is the fact that a hundred people might find you of less than average looks whereas a few would find you attractive. All are possibilities.

What's most important is that you try to be more than the sum of your perceived limitations. That's the best that any of us can do. It doesn't serve us to accept the worst about ourselves and in turn accept defeat.
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
I dont think its about being ugly or unattractive. In times like these you need a best friend who you can lie next to and talk about anything under the sun with nothing sexual, no awkwardness just open hearts and friendship. I call that being on a grown folks level.
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@AngelUnforgiven you need a certain level of physical attractiveness to get a woman. I agree with the best friend part love is overrated and fleeting.
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
@bushi2020 you sound like you have some self esteem issues, if you cant love and accept yourself then you cannot expect anyone else to either. Because thats how you push people away with self loathing and constantly beating yourself up. It doesn't matter whether anyone sees you as attractive because if they were truly your friend you would be the most beautiful person in their eyes anyway.
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@AngelUnforgiven lol I don't think anyone loves themselves I think that the best we can do is respect ourselves. I see things realistically I think I understand women well enough to know what they like.
I know I’m ugly because my psychiatrist makes me lie face down.

But I already had a clue because when I was a kid, I was only allowed to trick or treat by phone.
Fertilization · 36-40, F
You need a companion to share joys and sorrows…
Is this what you meant?
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@Fertilization No I don't need that I don't even need sex I just want to sleep next to someone hold on to someone.
@bushi2020 That's uncomfortable. I needs my space.
Fertilization · 36-40, F
@bushi2020 But you cannot do that unless you find someone who is comfortable with you.
ABCDEF7 · M
That is called loneliness.
Hire a professional cuddler if you cant find a volunteer
Levenrack · 46-50, M
You know... now they have professional cuddling services.
Im not lying, look it up.
I know I'm ugly and I don't care
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@Ferise1 lol not that brave.

 
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