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The Insitance on Perfection by the Imperfect

One of the great pressures we put on each other is to believe in some kind of perfection and it's an unnecessary pressure. Accepting that moral, physical or practical perfection is impossible will free us from a lot of self-doubt and metaphorical 'beating up' when we feel we are not quite getting things right and also prevent us from piling in on others who have made errors in judgement or other perceived imperfections.

However, we should strive to be the best we can where we have the power to change, but when faced with a body that doesn't conform to the current norms of beauty (which is 99% of us when we look in the mirror) we're best off remembering that no-one is perfect in that way. Or on realising that words have slipped out that we wish hadn't from our mouth or keyboard, sincerely apologise where necessary and move on. And if we are on the end of an apology for an 'offence', perhaps the humility of remembering out own imperfections will keep us from being bitter.
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ArishMell · 70-79, M
Very well put.

We want "perfection" in ourselves - we do our best, but become dissatisfied when we don't reach goals we should have seen as unrealistic.

Worse perhaps we expect "perfection" in others, or in things like public services - and cannot understand that though the people involved are usually doing the best they can, nothing can ever be 100% efficient, 100% free of breakdowns oro failures. Nor understand that our own plans are always a bit of a gamble, always carry some risk of one or another hazard, slip or failure.

The rarer the problem or lower the risk the worse it is because it moves the expectation from an sort of catastrophism ("it's always happening" - really?) to an sense of false security.


This is an unusual example of this expectation of 100% perfection meeting unexpected failure; affecting me. It was many years ago - afore portable telephones even.

Travelling to visit friends in NE London, I arrived at Waterloo station on time, and studied the Underground map to see where I needed change trains. As we slowed to that junction I stood up - and nearly fell over as the train suddenly accelerated hard instead and hared into the next tunnel. Startled, I alighted at the next stop Northwards and took the next train back. This time we ran straight through the junction.

I alighted at the next stop Southbound, where I learnt the junction had been closed by an electrical fire, found a telephone kiosk and rang my friends.

As I waited at the entrance for my host to collect me, I discreetly watched and listened to the early-evening confusion this breakdown had caused.

I concluded the most confused were the locals, because a very rare event had broken their familiar ways. Whereas we who visit the city only rarely are likely to be on edge, constantly verifying our locations and routes, aware of the risk of the untoward including our own navigation mistakes; always ready for possible escape-routes.


That was a rare type of event, a technical one behind the scenes at that, so naturally unexpected. Yet even then, we so often hear "Heads must roll"; "Who is responsible?" etc. The message is the expectation as we are personally perfect, anyone operating any human-made system, and the system itself, must always be 100% perfect.

Doings one's best, it seems, is not good enough - though admission of imperfection comes in organisations following some fault or wrong-doing apparently having no staff, yet "issuing a statement" blandly saying things like, "We are committed to..." .

We are all human and humans are not "perfect" - yet we expect ourselves to be perfect and everyone else, even better.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@FreddieUK Oh of course we never make mistakes - just everyone else! :-)

I wonder if being all too ready to crticise others is defensive, deflecting even ourselves from our own weaknesses. Something that encourages that is the idea that it is not only "wrong" to make mistakes, even treated as if deliberate, but it is seen equally wrong to admit one's own limits.

For example, if you admit honestly you cannot learn some artistic or academic field to a high level, you risk being derided by cruel lies like, "It's easy! Anyone can do it if you only put your mind to it!"


Far more seriously it leads to scapegoats; even to essentially innocent people being prosecuted for mistakes that lead to disaster. Firstly they the ones least able to defend themsleves, but what it shows they were entrusted with operating a system obviously not designed to fail-safe in the face of simple errors.


The example I use for that came from the German Railways quite some years ago now (15 years? I forget).

A station officer gave the Right-away to the driver of a train, into a single-line section neither man must have not known was already occupied by a train coming their way.

Following the inevitable head-on collision the Police arrested the station-master, before any proper investigation. I don't know the eventual outcome but to me, if any people were at fault, it might have been the Bundesbahn's directors. Why?

I don't know if the track merger was at the station where the driver might have seen the direction of the points, or somewhere beyond; but my first questions would have been,

"Was there a signal before, and interlocked with, the points? If 'Yes', was it showing 'STOP' over-riding any indication from any station staff member?"

"If so, did the driver ignore it; if he did, why?"

If "No" so far, dig further. No signal - why not? Faulty signal? That can happen so would it have failed to 'Stop' or show no indication at all? (If either, still why did the driver proceed?) Poor maintenance - why? and so on.



I.e., as in so many other cases, was the system protected against simple human mistakes, as far as possible; if not, why not?

We know the hazard, that people can slip up - so we try to minimise the risk, and don't just take the easiest target's mistake as THE cause!
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
@ArishMell I remember that and similar examples. Sometimes human based systems have built-in human frailty.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@FreddieUK I think that inherent frailty is the problem but does anyone in the right places recognise it?

It cannot be prevented, only guarded against by trying to think what might go wrong, and dealing with failures constructively and properly as rapidly as possible. Preferably without "knee-jerking" from outsiders like politicians and newspaper editors.

And without "putting procedures in place..." because I suspect sometimes it does happen again because the staff are so cramped by "procedures" they cannot use their initiative and experience.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
Very well considered.

I must admit I've not often thought about that, but have long noticed that so many people expect perfection of systems or services. Thery fail to realise two aspects.

The first is that no human-made system can be ever be 100% perfect in design or operation - people make mistakes or misjudge things, yet somehow that's treated as if wilful wrong-doing. The fault is not in the operators, but the system might be insufficiently protected against simple errors.

The second is that artificial things can wear out, break down unexpectedly, be damaged by external attacks like fires, floods and criminals - yet somehow so many imagine this should be impossible. Then when the unfortunate operators try to perform repairs or servicing to minimise break-downs, they are villified if the necessary work temporarily inconveniences the users - they (the operators) can't win!

I can think of three text-book examples of this, and all come down to people who are surely not perfect themselves, expecting perfection in others. Sorry - I am hopeless at remembering dates (I am not perfect!) but these are all within the last few decades:

1) Italy: Senior geological service manager arrested after an earthquake was a lot more sever than predicted. Earthquakes are notoriously not predictable.

2) Britain: Weather-forecaster Michael Fish villified over a storm being worse than predicted. Storms are not easy to forecast, even less easy in his day (1990s). Besides, he was right: we did not have a "hurricane".

3) Germany: A train left a station, entered a single-track section and collided with one already approaching from the other end. Fiorst action? Prosecute anyione the Police thought had casued it, the lower the rank the better.

4) Greece: Almost the same type of railway accident - the prosector's victim was the station-master who gave the drive "right away".

NB: I do not know the outcomes of either prosecution.

The common thread is reactions by very imperfect people, to events they could not understand, largely by basic technical ignorance but also by inability to imagine imperfection in other people and the systems they operate.

Natural events are very difficult to predict; but to find the underlying cause in the railway accidents I would ask if the railways had any built-in protection from human operational errors. If not, then yes, human error - but way back in the system's design, by people not foreseeing all possibilities including human fallibility in subsequent operation.

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There is though, another aspect of that fallibility with results making it impossible to identify quite what, as the dead cannot speak. This is lost attention or other momentary lapses.

The locomotive driver who caused the 1952 Harrow & Weadstone Station railway disaster, was apparently matched in the 1980s Moorgate crash on London Underground. We cannot know but I wonder if the respective drivers had become somehow mentally "lost", maybe only for seconds, but long enough for catastrophe. (Less excuseably that way though, at Harrow.)

Some of the so-called "Bermuda Triangle" disappearances may be similar but all those resulted from people failing somehow - usually incomprehensibly, but investigations revealed a few losses were by wilful negligence and/or pure ignorance.

;;;;;

In the end, perhaps the greatest human weakness is the inability to acknowledge simple human fallibility, and to understand it. Blame is much easier, even when the failure is by no means intended.

Recently, the phycisist Prof. Brian Cox pointed out on the radio that the human brain is most complex system known in the cosmos - mechanisms like quantum physics being comparatively simple.

Yet evn in full health it can still let us down!
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
@ArishMell You can always be relied on to give not just a considered response, but a thorough one. Thanks.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@FreddieUK Thankyou!
4meAndyou · F
This is a very sane, and very kind, post. I hope that many people read it, and take your words to their hearts.
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
@4meAndyou Thank you.
Candycrushx · 26-30, F
Very thought provoking x
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
Even that 1% who conform to norms of beauty should remember that there will always be someone more beautiful, or at least someone who is regarded as more beautiful, and that beauty fades or at least changes.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
What's a perfect color?
How about a perfect temperature?

A perfect sound?
A perfect smell?
A perfect rock?
A perfect circle?

Can you think of anything that is perfect?
Or is everything already perfect as is?
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@ArishMell ok give π to it's last digit for that "perfect" circle! 🤷🏻‍♂

If you can do it geometrically you would have that last digit of π. Yet the radius would be irrational. The perfect circle being 2πr.

Either way it's not perfect.

Concepts really don't fit into reality very well. Just the broad outlines. The trees get lost in the forest. And every tree has a different perspective.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@DeWayfarer Yes, pi is a very strange ratio indeed!

When I was at school in the 1960s we received an eight-page magazine described by its own title, Mathematical Pie, published three times a year. Full of a very eclectic mix of mathematical topics, it was started in 1950 and is still published, now by the Mathematical Association. Editions up to 1984 are available in pdf form.

I recall one topic described a rotary drill of creating square holes (presumably with rounded corners, and another showing the geometry of the recently-invented, Wankel rotary i.c. engine.

Along the bottom margin of each page were groups of digits. All together, from edition to edition, they were the value of π calculated somewhere to the umpteenth decimal place - as if whoever was doing that had nowt better to do. I don't know how far it reached.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@ArishMell oh there's a site I once saw that the download was in the megabytes. 🤣

How do you use such a number? 🤷🏻‍♂🤣

Here a million digits...

https://www.piday.org/million/

Now a billion digits! 🤣

https://stuff.mit.edu/afs/sipb/contrib/pi/pi-billion.txt

Who has a quantum computer to use either one? 🤷🏻‍♂
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
The pursuit of perfection oftentimes leads to dissatisfaction.
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
@Sidewinder Exactly.
SW-User
Imperfection is the optimal state of being. It reflects a dynamic whereby change thus life becomes possible.

 
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