Finding self help overwhelming

It feels like so many people claim to be experts but deliver little usable advice. The one thing that resonated with me is "don't let anything live rent free in your head.". Easier said than done, right? But I did it. First by letting go of my divorce where I felt like a complete failure. Second, by letting go of my dad's transgressions. To do so I used anger. Anger that I was treated that way. And anger that I let myself be in that position. It was like a light switch was flipped and the pain and fear was gone. Everyone is different. But I know that anger is a very strong tool for survival. And it works. If you can use it to take control like I did, you can beat it. 🤗

Rewriting your existence isn’t for the faint of heart. You’re forced to look at yourself in ways that you simply don’t want to, and oftentimes just reading words in a book or watching a video aren’t enough to really get to the roots of the you that’s buried deeply, fortified soundly in the soil that nourished it for so long. We can only do so much, and that’s coming from a Psychology major who experienced so much exhaustion just trying to rewire her own way of thinking. That kind of overhaul requires outside help usually, and even that can prove to be daunting as you try to find the perfect fit with a professional you feel comfortable being so vulnerable with. But when you do find that partner that’s capable of guiding you through moving the heavy stuff, man, do you feel unstoppable in your journey to finally having self-everything.

In case you didn’t know, you’re doing an awesome job at trying to find your way through the “mess” you’re trying to clean up. Give yourself credit for that, and give yourself plenty of compassion as you move forward…even if it’s just through baby steps instead of the great leaps we all think this kind of process should be 💞

I'm reading a book right now on trauma in an effort to help myself. It is daunting and I'm only on the first section of the book.
I think if we have a shot at improving ourselves, it won't be just by reading a book or through our individual efforts alone. It took people to mess us up; it may also take people to help us up.
This is why I'm medicated af. Need all the help I can get. In all seriousness, I think about that question too. Then again, who's to say we should all be normal anyway?

I have a manta i try to keep running in my head , it wasn't my fault ,i did nothing wrong I'm not to blame , i didn't deserve it . Over and over and over until it becomes ingrained into my consciousness. I think that is the first step ,the most important step , and yes my mind comes up with a hundred reasons why it could be my fault ,i l look at each reason and discount it .It's even harder because in everyday life we see that other people don't hurt their kids of grind them down mentally, so it must have been me .These are the seeds they planted in us and like a bad weed they are so hard to get rid of . Accepting that it's in no way our fault is the foundation that we can build self confidence.

Don't give up. It took me years to find some doctors and others that would help me. I still have a long way to go but with the right support I know I can do this. Please keep trying

None of that worked for me. So I concentrating on letting shit go and only hanging out with positive people and doing things that make me happy. It's not easy but only then things started to change

I think a lot of modern self-help is pretty boned, to be frank.

What if you start with small steps instead of getting overwhelmed with trying to rewrite the bigger picture?