Family court proceedings had just begun and I had my son with me when first found out about it. I was informed by my lawyer that due to there being no legal custody agreements that the court would consider whomever my son was living with would be thought of as the parent with majority of custody till legal ruling had taken place. I had to make the decision to keep my son with me and have things possibly go more in my favor in court. Or let him be with his mother also knowing I really had no hope at all in getting a fair court case. hardest decision I ever made was taking him back to her that day because I could never do that to him and strongly feel that a child needs both parents.
I never saw him for 4 months after that due to her refusing me to let me see him and in court I was treated like a criminal despite glowing assessments, supervised visitations and all that. They said that a child only needs their mothers and yeah 2 years of me fighting a losing uphill battle when things could have potentially went somewhat different. As much shit as I went through, I am now still glad I did what I did. It just proves to me that I will always put my son first over myself
Asking my mother if she wanted to be resuscitated if she flat lined at the nursing home. She said no and signed their papers. She was gone less than two weeks later.
@SW-User Do not resuscitate, I will always remember those words. I learned a life lesson from my mother regarding this decision and have chosen it for myself. She worked in the medical industry for 39 years, several of which were spent helping others pass on herself. I was lucky to learn about human behavior from her. How did your family handle it?
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@PatKirby Everyone understood and none of us want to be kept alive artificially. It was many years before any of that came to pass.
My mom was dead set against it. The aunt who raised her had a long, grim struggle at the end and she wanted no part of that
@PatKirby I no longer have any pets. I care for one of my children’s dogs during the work week. I go feed him, change his water, and let him into the yard. Sometimes, I’ll take him for a walk, if the weather is nice, but he gets two long walks a day, a.m. and p.m., so he gets pretty tired out from them now he’s older. My short walks are a bonus, and he lets me know if he doesn’t want to go.
Standing for myself even if others didn't agree, even if some got hurt too or upset , a couple decisions like that. Because I was pleasing people and I wasn't thinking of myself I was hurting more.
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Get a job or sell my body. Had to get a job unfortunately my body type is not in high demand.
@kodiac I'll share this with you. Which one was you? I was the first, second, and third one.
I figured it out by the fourth one. The bruises heal soon, but the inner ones take a lot longer. The last two are some real tough dudes, they just take it. The problem with that is, they may never heal. So speak up if it happens, don't be shy. You have rights too.
@romell Don't, you likely won't see it again. A tenant I had to evict used every excuse in the book including a rich uncle he said he had. Gave him a 3 day pay or quit notice and sure enough he hauled ass without paying $1,300 he still owes me. Hey I got bills too. That was in 2011. Btw, he stole a nice comforter on his way out.
@Optima12 Although I've followed my dreams and things went okay, in hindsight I'll answer this with a definite - follow your heart. People are more important than things.
This week risking my job to tell management about suspicious activity I’d seen around the store. Turns out it wasn’t what I thought. Currently deciding I can’t cheat to get ahead.
I had to approve the specialists in the ICU giving my mom a trial sepsis drug because she had pneumonia that went septic and part of her lung was necrotic. I approved it and it saved her.
