Did I change or did people's view of me changed I remember a time where people used to like me...

RubySoo · 56-60, F

Hunni, please believe me when i tell you, its NOT that you have become unpopular or less liked, its that this place is not the same as it was back then. I joined in 2017. There are a handful of people here now who were around then, but most or long gone, or at least inactive.
I could say the same, i used to get lots of replies, people happy to talk, offer advice, share stories....but it doesn't happen now like it did for any of us.
Ive never been part of the in crowd or cool kids either. Ive been involved in dramas, made fun if, picked on and been duped by people i believed were friends. Ive also been help and supported by great people, had lots of laughs.
But people dont use the site like they did. Its much more just a social site now than a place for support. Those of us that do post of our trials or situations are often overlooked, coz most peeps here just want a laugh. That makes me a bit sad at times that people dont have the interest in oneanother like they once did.
Ive changed how i use this site now. I do vent and moan from time to time, but in general, i dont put the time in to share these days. I have a small handful of friends i pm, but i dont attempt to look for new connections or offer support after previous experiences.
Ive taken more than a step back.
Maybe you have changed a little from your experiences here.......but its the site thats totally different to the one we joined.
🤗

Selah ·

The site is dead.

GerOttman · 61-69, M

The thing is, I often find it difficult (and sometimes pointless) to try being positive with someone when they are seemingly determined to reside in their own private darkness. I also don't feel like I'm the right guy to offer advice or consolation in such a situation. I'm not in that club anymore, I used to be. I found my way out and now I'm a happy positive kind of guy. The times I have tried to reach out to others, I mostly get condescension in return. As near as I can tell, many people hate their own depression but are too comfortable with it to leave it behind.

Do you want to be happy? Or is it just too different to even consider?

being · 36-40, F

We go through phases... maybe it's a phase for you.. I am mostly feeling that I don't get much attention too but I have felt truly hugged by the community here few times...it just happens 💜 don't let these thoughts get much into your head, and it's not about the quantity most of the times 🤗

Virgo79 · 61-69, M

I think youre pretty sweet😌

Ducky · 31-35, F

You seem fine to me. Sure you go through a lot and vent about your issues sometimes, but I've never held that against you. I do the same thing. Don't apologize just for being human. I feel more or less the same - that I don't have many people who like here anymore and if they do, it's only when I show off my body or the few good pics of my face I have, lol. But like anywhere, this place is superficial as hell. Why would you want to be well-liked among some BS community like this? Forget them. Hold on to the few friends you may have left because they're all that matter. Better a few actual friends than a whole bunch of fakes.

Helloeveryone · 61-69, F

let me tell you something i am so lucky between the wedding business and the media business I have met so many amazing people....ive gotton so may gigs to be on their shows to talk about the stock market ...you seem very alone and need to get out there.....hows your media life have you met anyone new and exciting?

likesnatural · 70-79, M

I didn't know that you had gone thru all that. I am sympathetic. I hope you have friends or family that are supportive of you being in a good place and help. I wish you happiness and feeling better.

Helloeveryone · 61-69, F

Not being mean at all but is this the Im sorry guy from EP...

Eddiesolds · 61-69, M

I know ive tried. Its ok. We both know why. Ya thats too bad. Have a nice day Chantou

MissPerfect · 22-25, F

Do you expect sympathy too often? That could be the problem. I wish you much happiness in your life.

stound

i think the whole site has changed significantly. never apologize for being yourself, imho.

SW-User

We often become "uncool" or not so fascinating once people get to know us.
I keep in mind that these online sites are not about true friendships most times... more about the illusion of friends and all on social sites... including this one. A few get to know each other well and become great friends, but mostly... they just hang around on sites and spend time online.

You stick to your brighter days and hopefully spend them with people close to you. :)
Those who matter will always be with you.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

I think that you are reading way too much into your lack of replies. Try not to internalize and overthink interactions on this site.
Nothing ever stays the same all of the time.

Now if people blocked you personally thats a different matter with each person individually but as far as getting more replies and stuff the algorithm changed.
More people probably used to randomly see your posts.
Also many of the people that knew you before are gone.
Just relax and take it easy. Thank God that you had those people who were there for you before. Now if you want you can start over.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

I am glad things are going better for you.

You don’t need to apologize for the things you have been through.

You do need to stop letting people treat you so badly. You have more value than that.

LordShadowfire · 46-50, M

Apparently, I'm right there with you. Even as recently as last year, I could have posted something and gotten 40 to 50 answers.