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Worst experience in love?

Staying loyal to a guy i was seeing for over a year while clinging onto hope that he would get serious about me and a real relationship would bloom. As much as it was obvious that i was just a booty call i still clung onto hope. He was so hot and cold towards me which confused me a lot. In the beginning we went out places and it was like he wanted to get to know me then we quit going places and eventually it just became hooking up and watching tv in silence in his room while he scrolled on his phone but i stupidly clung to hope.

I ended up ghosting him and fading out of his life slowly because after awhile everytime i saw him more of me died inside. I used to jump at the opportunity to see him and would look forward to it but then i started making excuses and saw the visits as a chore. I felt used but somewhere deep down he loved me? No i was just a idiot that got used
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
It happens, sweetie, but you will find someone new and it's almost always when you're not expecting it....and, well, people are attracted to confidence so being the most independent gurl that you can be...go out with friends, have a laugh, have fun...you'll get the hunk of your dreams...

For me? God....*deep sigh* I was attracted to this very handsome, uber confident hottie called Dominic....made me feel special....lots of romance....lots of sex....but I'd hear that he'd be bangin' other T-girls too...he'd deny, of course, and with that charming personality, just keep me there, y'know? This happened, this cycle, for well over a year - I'd hear talk, he'd call them rumours and fakery, and we'd carry on.....until I saw him passionately kiss this gurl in the corner of a club. Again, he said that he wasn't doing that....but, well, cupping an individual's breasts whilst you're giving them '...a peck on the cheek' isn't really a friend thing to do is it? Case closed; he's a sleazebag!

Ironically I saw him the other week with his new conquest when out with friends...

Pfft, as they say!

😘
Ducky · 31-35, F
I’m sorry you had to go through that. Whoever that guy is, I can tell you right now that you can do a hell of lot better. Doesn’t matter how attractive he may be, if he couldn’t appreciate you then he’s not worth it. All the same, sucks that it had to happen. You’ll find another. Probably sooner than you think. 🫂

As for me, my worst experience was actually on this site, lol. I made the best connection I ever made here. We were both in committed relationships, so it’s not like anything serious could have happened, but I was still happy to have her in my life. We got along so well until one day, she just stopped talking to me and eventually blocked me for no reason that I know of to this day. I’ll never get over her. 😔
Ducky · 31-35, F
@apersonnamedit I seriously doubt it because she’d get real flirty with another user here she was close with and after she stopped talking to me, I saw that they were still real close. It just doesn’t make sense, lol. It is what it is though.
apersonnamedit · 26-30, T
@Ducky I don't know people are seriously weird sometimes. there was probably something going on behind the scenes that must have influenced it
Ducky · 31-35, F
@apersonnamedit It’s the opinion of some I’ve opened up about this to that she was developing feelings for me too and became scared, so she just pushed me away. Touching, lol. But considering what I told you in my last reply, I find it hard to believe. Oh well.
4meAndyou · F
Narcissists and users often hide behind a pretty face. I never see anyone twice who tries to "hide" me, or who wants to use me.

It hurts. I know you are hurting about this...but please remember that you are valuable. Remember that it is YOU who ghosted HIM...and next time, no hooking up until you KNOW the person a little better, and you KNOW that they are "good people".
apersonnamedit · 26-30, T
@4meAndyou It just sucks because I don't understand why I was being hid. It happened a few years ago but it still eats at me sometimes.
4meAndyou · F
@apersonnamedit I was also hidden...by a married man who wanted to use me for a weekend, but made sure no trace of me was left at his summer home where he took me, and made me sit in the car on the side of a snowy road on a mountain while he visited with his friends for almost an hour. He was purposely trying to humiliate me.

When I dumped him he went after a good friend of mine.

Just recognize that you may be attracted to people who are...not good. For whatever reason. That is what happens with me.
lisasweety · 22-25, F
my bf back in junior high (middle school) was kinda abusive as well as a HUGE TIME chauvinist who treated me more like a trophy than a rl gf😥😥😥 plus he was super, supr domineering when we hav sex (not the rl thing but i did give him bjs and hjs) so id say that relationship was the worst i had so far😕😕😕
wackidywack · 26-30
idk if it was my fault for thinking they wanted me enough to really keep me but it really broke me when I gave and did everything I could. I felt like I wasn't enough (which I know now isnt the truth)
apersonnamedit · 26-30, T
@SStarfish it sucked i felt like i was being kept a secret
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
All of it.
Glassysky · 26-30, M
Booty call
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
Being led on.

 
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