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A woman told me I was a pervy creep for liking big boobs

I got told this at work by a co worker during a conversation with another one, she was listening in like a snoop and said this to me lol. 馃槀
graphite56-60, M
The male libido is deeply hated in western culture. It is perfectly normal for men to be attracted to women's breasts. Tell her to mind her own *##$@% business.
graphite56-60, M
[@1160668,PatKirby] Lots of double standards and nonsense going around re: genders.
[@698333,graphite] True, men have traditionally been respected for their ability to do their work well, without their looks being an issue, if it doesn鈥檛 affect the job.
[@1160668,PatKirby] ROTFLOL!
Rutterman41-45, M
That doesn't make you a pervy creep, but it might be best to avoid mentioning things like this at work--or at least within earshot of co-workers who aren't involved in the conversation.

That said, I think this woman was out of line with her comments. I've heard people say plenty of things at work that I didn't like. Seldom did I find it necessary to say something in response. And on those occasions when I did respond, throwing a derogatory label at someone didn't strike me as an appropriate way to handle the situation.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@121363,Rutterman] so you can't talk normally at work? Just makes it even more boring...
Rutterman41-45, M
[@796214,JimFarris16] You can. Just use good judgement about it and be aware of who might be listening.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@121363,Rutterman] that's a voliation of privacy, I should report her. She does this constantly.
You were discussing boobs while on the job ? Were you at least on break or something ?
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@328496,bijouxbroussard] eavesdropping is not a good thing.
[@796214,JimFarris16] No, but it鈥檚 not really actionable unless it鈥檚 being done electronically, like tapping someone鈥檚 phone.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@328496,bijouxbroussard] I need to get her off my back somehow
I'm going to go ahead and say your creepy perv status predates this encounter.
[@796214,JimFarris16] It's quite possible, he's really creepy.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@401815,KaliKali] what are his thoughts on boobs?
[@796214,JimFarris16] I have no idea.
REMsleep41-45, F
You should learn not to discuss anything sexual at work. More problems than anything can come from that. Someone who overhears can be uncomfortable and that is a protected form of sexual harassment in the workplace.
It can get you fired or worse.
Protect yourself.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@10165,Iamonfire666] she shouldn't be listening to other people's conversations like that at work, we both hate each other now. I'm either reporting her to HR or getting a restraining order, or both.
REMsleep41-45, F
[@796214,JimFarris16] I don't know if you are being serious or intentionally trolling. You aren't in the position of a woman so that type of feeling dosen't apply to you if you are comfortable.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@867436,REMsleep] That doesn't apply to me because I'm not a woman? That's some double standard bullshit. A man could easily feel sexually harassed by women.
mrlopez26-30, M
she is probably about to complain to HR. best not to talk about what you are attracted to at work. there's a lot of miserable people that might twist your words.
[@796214,JimFarris16] If you were discussing it during business hours and you weren鈥檛 in the men鈥檚 room, you could get into more trouble than she would. But you鈥檙e not going to listen to anyone, so hey, go on and risk it. 馃檮
Neoerectus51-55, M
[@796214,JimFarris16] Yeah, your response tells me you needed reported.

You were actionably in appropriate, it appears. You are a legal liability for your employer based on what you admitted.

You report her and you will probably be the one reprimanded or fired.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@634048,Neoerectus] I reported her this morning and it sounds like she's gonna be reprimanded or fired, I wasn't the only employee to report her either. Almost everyone there hates her, I guess you could say we all "ganged up on her".
If you鈥檙e going to sit in public and loudly discuss tits I鈥檇 say you might not be a perv but you鈥檙e probably an obnoxious chauvinist
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@1203119,SophieSmiles] it wasn't a public conversation, it was a private one during break time. Yes, I am obnoxious and I won't change for anyone.
She obviously has sexual hang ups or tiny boobs
[@796214,JimFarris16] Kudos 馃槉
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@561899,BalmyNites] Shame too, I thought she was actually cute at first.
[@796214,JimFarris16] I鈥檇 give her a wide berth in future, she鈥檚 the one with issues
Moona8631-35, F
She probably has small boobs
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@747701,Moona86] yeah...
Did she have small titties?
[@465377,SweetNSassy] what type do you have 馃構

[@1161949,tacobell] I know yours are massive 馃お
[@800884,Viper] he ain鈥檛 got nothing on me! 馃檭
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@465377,SweetNSassy] I should report her.
Tell her to mind her own business. I think that's pretty creepy of [i]her[/i], to go nosing around in other people's conversations. Is that all she has to do, in her extra time? That's what she gets for snooping.

Now this would be different, if your group was standing within earshot of a group of ladies, where they may catch wind of a line or two, but this doesn't sound like the situation. If not, that means she went out of her way to walk across the room, to listen in. If this was the case, the next time she decides to stroll over, smile real big and act happy to see her, quickly pulling up a chair, and say, "Hey!! I saved you a ringside seat!" I doubt she'll come back.
Steve4251-55, M
Do you want HR classes? That's how you make your whole company sit through HR classes. Seriously though, don't shit where you eat.
Liking big boobs doesn't make you a pervy creep, telling people at work what your penis likes does.
HoraceGreenley56-60, M
That shit can get you in trouble. It's OK to say, just don't be overheard by the Woke crowd.
latinladybug41-45, F
Nothing wrong with that as long as you can control yourself.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@876949,latinladybug] I can, in fact she doesn't know that I'm not even attracted to butts so I can't be that much of a perv lol...
Calliope18-21, F
I like big boobs and I鈥檓 a woman so I guess I鈥檓 a pervert too then
ravenhill0Ironanvil41-45, MVIP
it ain't necessarily so, its natural for a man.
jbon8536-40, M
As she goes home and eats ass
Iamonfire66636-40, F
Yah you shouldn鈥檛 be talking about it at work
Iamonfire66636-40, F
[@796214,JimFarris16] go ahead and tell your boss. You are the one who is 100% in the wrong.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@10165,Iamonfire666] no, she is
Hey as long as they were not your mom's boobs you were talking about, your good.
exexec61-69, C
Whew! I guess I'm okay since I like small boobs.
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@11378,exexec] maybe...
MarkS51-55, M
You perv!
apaerntly a "perve" or Creep" is any male that is interested in her . but unattractive
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@686055,Dshhh] lol
DunningKruger56-60, M
Yes, but did she say it like it was a bad thing?
JimFarris1618-21, M
[@10617,DunningKruger] yes, it was very hurtful.
Xavierr46-50, M
I like big boobs and I cannot lie

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