Has anyone blackmailed you and using it to weasel his way in to a relationship with you?

Never bow down to these types of threats.

Ever.

It’s time to turn the tables, and take your power back, and put this to an end. You’ve got the power here. Exercise it. If it still comes out, then you’ll finally be free of it, but you pull the strings...don’t allow it any more power over you. The truth sets you free. It can’t bind you anymore. It only has the power you give it. You’ve suffered and carried this enough. Enough is enough.

Everyone makes mistakes. Hold your head high, and firmly make it clear to him that.... “If you think that’s the right thing to do, go ahead, but let me remind you, that blackmail is a serious crime, and should you do this, you will go to prison, and the inmates will be more than glad to have a new “girlfriend” inside. They will rape you repeatedly, beat you, and you’ll get solitary confinement.”

One more thing, if you were to give in to him he will always use it against you. He will make you do more and more disgusting things, maybe even pressure you to have sex with other people or smuggle drugs for him.

These types of people do not stick to their word. Ever. They are terribly broken people who do not play by any conventional rules.

Also, remember. You don’t need to explain details to anyone. The more you cower, the worse people will take advantage of that and try to make you feel ashamed. Be firm, stand tall, and if your parents or anyone asks, I’d just say, “There’s not one person, who’s never made a mistake. I’ve made mine, I’ve asked God to forgive me, and that’s the end of it. I’ve moved on. End of story.” [b]Period!![/b] You need say no more. Not to anyone. And don’t act or look ashamed. You’re not the only person who’s made mistakes in this life. If they don’t ask, don’t volunteer. It makes you look weak and guilty.

[b]Slow down.[/b] You’re not thinking, here. I cannot emphasise enough. Go to the police station and stir things up right after you have talked to him, and you will have more problems than you can shake a stick at, believe me. The talk should be enough. That’s the whole purpose of negotiation. Why even have that talk with him I suggested, if you’re going to start a war before he’s had time to soak it all in? [b]Never corner your enemy.[/b] Usually, blackmailers are all talk. Stand up to them, and they usually cower down. Once you let them know what could happen, they usually talk brave, but in private, cower down and that is it. But you’re not even giving this guy a chance to think about negotiating ....and I’m not talking about threatening him. The whole purpose is to talk it out. Usually it ends there, but your ready to go gung-ho and start shooting, before he’s even had a chance to think about what you’ve told him. Going to the police will only infuriate him from your attack, and by going to the police, YOU have started the war, in HIS eyes, and now you’ve got someone set on retaliating against you, perhaps wanting to harm you, stalk you, or kill you! Always give your enemy a way out! Never corner him. Corner him, and that’s when he goes crazy, gets desperate to make his point, then starts stalking you or hurting you.
If negotiation doesn’t work, [b]then[/b] you think about other choices, but [b]not until[/b].

I had a 5 min thing with a neighbor and it turned into years of her blackmailing me ,
Let them tap into my power when her man was to sorry to pay his bill
Use my van cause poor Daniel needs milk and diapers ,hitting me up for money because her drunk knows I will do anything for her ,
But if I said no she was telling me what a shame it would be if my wife knew what we had done ,,and now she is not even fine to me ,,how was I so stupid ?

I knew it was going to ruin my marriage ,the second we did the deed I knew it was a huge mistake .
She was saying next time we could do it in my wifes bed ,NO that is never happening ,,this was a mistake ,a bad mistake ,this will kill my wife

But she was hard to resist ,and my wife was putting her Mom before me ,
I was home every night alone ,while she was with her Mom instead of home with her husband ,so that was my excuse ,my wife caused it leaving me alone to often knowing a good looking woman (who flirted in front of my wife )
She actually wanted me to leave my wife for her ,my wife was younger and way prettier ,,,I just got caught up in the fantasy .

I asked my brother what he thought ,he is 10 yrs older ,He tells me to go for it ,,
But then when I finally confess ,not only to my wife ,but my family and hers too
I wanted to confess everything ,no one to ever be able to put me in a position like this again ,,so I confessed crap I done through out my entire life ..

If I was losing my wife and my life anyway ,get it all out there

It took years to recover ,but guess who was there to comfort my wife
My Brother ,,,I should have busted his snake in the grass ass too
he was cheating on his wife ,,but his was more than a 1 time thing .

But I don't snitch on others ,even when they pull that
I was happy to have MY SINS off my chest

I have never allowed myself to be put in that situation again

1. Go to your Dr and complain having anxiety about him.

2. Wait for a week, tell your family what's up and you do not want to see him.

3. If he does show up, call the cops.

Then show the cops about your Dr visit.

No woman should be uncomfortable in the house she lives in

Oh, and own up to your shit before he does. Don't let him have the power

A long....... time ago
this guy tried me to go out with him or else- he would incriminate me with false evidence since one of his relatives had a position of power within some government office or agency

Well anyway, I just blocked him
It would be insane to give someone who is out of their damn mind the time of day.


Plus... people get over what other people do- Even if rumors start and people know- we all have issues to deal with and whatever is said about you will be forgotten with - who ever else's name is put in the rumor mill within the next couple days.

Thank you for best answer, but all the credit goes to the One who helps and rescues.

Restraining order is the only way

I had it happen before. He ended up telling everyone what I did, which was handled by family and friends much better than I expected, and then he threatened to kill me after that. Then he threatened to take me to court even though I didn’t do anything lol so I got a restraining order and that seemed to do the trick.

Call the police...Blackmail is a crime.

what something embarrassing?

Yikes what a total creep. To live true is the best way. No one wants to shame their families but you shouldn’t let anyone bully you. If you coming clean to those you care for stops this harassment then it might be what you need to do.