Has anyone blackmailed you and using it to weasel his way in to a relationship with you?

I had a 5 min thing with a neighbor and it turned into years of her blackmailing me ,
Let them tap into my power when her man was to sorry to pay his bill
Use my van cause poor Daniel needs milk and diapers ,hitting me up for money because her drunk knows I will do anything for her ,
But if I said no she was telling me what a shame it would be if my wife knew what we had done ,,and now she is not even fine to me ,,how was I so stupid ?

I knew it was going to ruin my marriage ,the second we did the deed I knew it was a huge mistake .
She was saying next time we could do it in my wifes bed ,NO that is never happening ,,this was a mistake ,a bad mistake ,this will kill my wife

But she was hard to resist ,and my wife was putting her Mom before me ,
I was home every night alone ,while she was with her Mom instead of home with her husband ,so that was my excuse ,my wife caused it leaving me alone to often knowing a good looking woman (who flirted in front of my wife )
She actually wanted me to leave my wife for her ,my wife was younger and way prettier ,,,I just got caught up in the fantasy .

I asked my brother what he thought ,he is 10 yrs older ,He tells me to go for it ,,
But then when I finally confess ,not only to my wife ,but my family and hers too
I wanted to confess everything ,no one to ever be able to put me in a position like this again ,,so I confessed crap I done through out my entire life ..

If I was losing my wife and my life anyway ,get it all out there

It took years to recover ,but guess who was there to comfort my wife
My Brother ,,,I should have busted his snake in the grass ass too
he was cheating on his wife ,,but his was more than a 1 time thing .

But I don't snitch on others ,even when they pull that
I was happy to have MY SINS off my chest

I have never allowed myself to be put in that situation again