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Has anyone blackmailed you and using it to weasel his way in to a relationship with you?

I have done something embarrassing and bad in the past and has recently resurfaced. This guy I know has been using it to get me to go out with him. I originally joined the site to get it out of my system but still held back. I don’t want to disappoint nor shame my family but every time I ignore him, he drops subtle hints. He is starting to show up unannounced or ring my father to have small talks. He would get his sister to ring me and chat etc. I can’t stand him and everything about him irritates and annoy me.

I’m thinking of telling my family what I’ve done so I can tell this A-hole to f**k off. I live in a small conservative religious village, gossip spread like wildfire here. 😢

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LadyGrace · Best Comment

Never bow down to these types of threats.

Ever.

It’s time to turn the tables, and take your power back, and put this to an end. You’ve got the power here. Exercise it. If it still comes out, then you’ll finally be free of it, but you pull the strings...don’t allow it any more power over you. The truth sets you free. It can’t bind you anymore. It only has the power you give it. You’ve suffered and carried this enough. Enough is enough.

Everyone makes mistakes. Hold your head high, and firmly make it clear to him that.... “If you think that’s the right thing to do, go ahead, but let me remind you, that blackmail is a serious crime, and should you do this, you will go to prison, and the inmates will be more than glad to have a new “girlfriend” inside. They will rape you repeatedly, beat you, and you’ll get solitary confinement.”

One more thing, if you were to give in to him he will always use it against you. He will make you do more and more disgusting things, maybe even pressure you to have sex with other people or smuggle drugs for him.

These types of people do not stick to their word. Ever. They are terribly broken people who do not play by any conventional rules.

rckt148 · 61-69, M

@LadyGrace Wow Grace ,remind me to never cross you ,
sounds like you know how to play the game too ..
I played ,,but I had everything to lose ,which I finally did anyway .
That guilt was just to much to bear ,,I finally spilled all the beans
Now even satan has no ammo in that box ,I confessed and repented LOL

LadyGrace ·

@rckt148 Lol 😂I’m a very business-minded woman. I’ve had to help lots of people, and professionally construct arguments in a tactful, profitable manner, so I know how to help people get out of jams. 😂

PilinisesiofParadise · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace
I actually stood up and took a deep breath and straighten myself up. I will speak to my family now. They’re very important to me and I don’t want them to hear it from anyone else.

Here goes.

rckt148 · 61-69, M

@LadyGrace I got a guy I go to now too ,I think you know Him too
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cd_xxmXdQz4]

LadyGrace ·

@PilinisesiofParadise If you feel you must, then do. That is very brave of you, and I am so proud of you. You’ll have a load taken off you. I’m hoping they’ll break all ties with that guy.

LadyGrace ·

@rckt148 Amen, Brother Rick. Amen! That’s why I mentioned the Truth will set you free. 🤗 Beautiful song and words.

LadyGrace ·

@PilinisesiofParadise Don’t forget to thank God for His blessings in this situation. He’s the one who sets us free, as He is the Truth, the Way, and the Life.

“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32. We must give credit, where credit is due.