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Has anyone blackmailed you and using it to weasel his way in to a relationship with you?

I have done something embarrassing and bad in the past and has recently resurfaced. This guy I know has been using it to get me to go out with him. I originally joined the site to get it out of my system but still held back. I don’t want to disappoint nor shame my family but every time I ignore him, he drops subtle hints. He is starting to show up unannounced or ring my father to have small talks. He would get his sister to ring me and chat etc. I can’t stand him and everything about him irritates and annoy me.

I’m thinking of telling my family what I’ve done so I can tell this A-hole to f**k off. I live in a small conservative religious village, gossip spread like wildfire here. 😢

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LadyGrace ·

[b]Slow down.[/b] You’re not thinking, here. I cannot emphasise enough. Go to the police station and stir things up right after you have talked to him, and you will have more problems than you can shake a stick at, believe me. The talk should be enough. That’s the whole purpose of negotiation. Why even have that talk with him I suggested, if you’re going to start a war before he’s had time to soak it all in? [b]Never corner your enemy.[/b] Usually, blackmailers are all talk. Stand up to them, and they usually cower down. Once you let them know what could happen, they usually talk brave, but in private, cower down and that is it. But you’re not even giving this guy a chance to think about negotiating ....and I’m not talking about threatening him. The whole purpose is to talk it out. Usually it ends there, but your ready to go gung-ho and start shooting, before he’s even had a chance to think about what you’ve told him. Going to the police will only infuriate him from your attack, and by going to the police, YOU have started the war, in HIS eyes, and now you’ve got someone set on retaliating against you, perhaps wanting to harm you, stalk you, or kill you! Always give your enemy a way out! Never corner him. Corner him, and that’s when he goes crazy, gets desperate to make his point, then starts stalking you or hurting you.
If negotiation doesn’t work, [b]then[/b] you think about other choices, but [b]not until[/b].