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Has anyone blackmailed you and using it to weasel his way in to a relationship with you?

I have done something embarrassing and bad in the past and has recently resurfaced. This guy I know has been using it to get me to go out with him. I originally joined the site to get it out of my system but still held back. I don’t want to disappoint nor shame my family but every time I ignore him, he drops subtle hints. He is starting to show up unannounced or ring my father to have small talks. He would get his sister to ring me and chat etc. I can’t stand him and everything about him irritates and annoy me.

I’m thinking of telling my family what I’ve done so I can tell this A-hole to f**k off. I live in a small conservative religious village, gossip spread like wildfire here. 😢

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MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

1. Go to your Dr and complain having anxiety about him.

2. Wait for a week, tell your family what's up and you do not want to see him.

3. If he does show up, call the cops.

Then show the cops about your Dr visit.

No woman should be uncomfortable in the house she lives in

Oh, and own up to your shit before he does. Don't let him have the power

PilinisesiofParadise · 31-35, F

@MightySizeQueen
This is a sensible plan. I will do this on Monday.

MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

@PilinisesiofParadise you can do it tonight by owning up to your mistakes to your family. Or think about it tonight, talk to your family tomorrow. Walk in on Monday to your Dr, get the meds... Etc...

And black mailing is bad, make sure your Dr knows that too.

You will need paper trail to support your position. You cant just get a restraining order without cause... Paper trail will become your best friend 😊 I wish you luck

PilinisesiofParadise · 31-35, F

@MightySizeQueen
Thank you for the advice, I truly appreciate it.

MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

@PilinisesiofParadise make sure you have the correct law enforcement to take your report... It's a bitch to report online, wait for a day or so, then they tell you, wrong department.

PilinisesiofParadise · 31-35, F

@MightySizeQueen
I won’t report online, I will go to the station. Someone mention speaking to a female officer, which I will do.

MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

@PilinisesiofParadise the great thing about online, you can take your time to write it. You can proof read it to make sure you have everything down. In person, there will be a lot going on your mind and you might miss a few things. Plus, with gas price going up, you'll save gas 😁

PilinisesiofParadise · 31-35, F

@MightySizeQueen
You have given me a great idea. I will write everything down first before going to the station.

MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

@PilinisesiofParadise make sure you are within the correct jurisdiction. Good night and keep us posted. I'm sure someone else is going thru this and haven't have enough courage to speak up

LadyGrace ·

@PilinisesiofParadise No. That’s NOT good advice. Why stir up more trouble and keep this going, once you’ve told your family??? You’ll just drag this on, when it could have ended with your talk to your family and him. Get that man worked up, and he’ll give you something to worry about. He’ll keep this going and it will escalate. The last thing you want to do, is get hold of the police and get a restraining order and all that. When you tell your family, then tell him what you need to say, that’s all you need, because more retaliation will just cause you more problems down the line, unless he is threatening your person.