How come people don't say exactly how they feel?

That would be doing you a service, at their expense. They would have to endure discomfort in order to provide you with comfort. Why would they do that if they don't want to hang out or be friends with you? They have already determined that they cannot receive much/anything from you, so what do they gain from comforting you?

As for cheating, well, that's another concept. But, in that case, what would be the rational choice?

The cheating person can do one of two things: tell their partner that they're cheating, thereby ending the relationship--or at least losing one sexual--or otherwise--resource. Or, they can try to lie and try to maintain two sexual--or otherwise--resources.

Two is better than one.

That sort of thing does actually happen sometimes, though, especially as you get older. I've had more than one occasion where plans kept falling through (on my end) with the same person for months on end, even when things seemed to work out with others more often than not, and it really was just due to poor luck with other things coming up every time with no overarching pattern.

Peeps are often unable to express themselves in concern of your feelings which actually reflect their feelings and inhibitions?

What subliminal message are people not hearing when they encounter that....

Well, why don't you?

Nobody really ever says exactly how they feel. I get the whole shady cheating part but as far as everyday circumstances, I do keep a filter because I’d rather not get into fights and altercations daily. If I don’t like a co worker for example I’m not gonna go straight up to him and say “ you’re a douchebag you fucking idiot” . I’d rather just be cordial and move along

I think those kind of people are just cowards 😮

THANK YOU! Fucking around, stringing people along, and pretending to be sincere is much worse than the hard truth. Fuck. At least, if people say they're leaving, and they're considerate enough to explain Why, then there's room for growing. Otherwise, both people are stunted of growth and equally ignorant.

because I don't want to be an asshole. It doesn't matter how nice you are about it, people will take things like that to heart. I don't want to make people feel bad.

Because if they do, you'll get all butt hurt and bitch about how rude and inconsiderate they are. It is precisely the people tgat pretend they want people to be frank with them that whinge when people do become frank.

Because they are pussies.