Why do women NEED to be sweet and kind in order to get assistance in life but men can act bold and aggressive?

I think everyone needs to be assertive. Women & men. Not weak nor aggressive.

I have zero doubt that women are treated differently than men at places like auto dealerships. It's I imagine not just a thing in the U.S., but probably worldwide. Not excusable or right, it just is.

Short of addressing the sexism issue, this is how to deal with, or at least how I dealt with the issue:

I Googled the manufacturer's' customer service number and called it. It's always a toll free number and it takes a minute to get to the right person, but it takes care of the problem. I didn't need to be aggressive at all. Just stuck to my guns and wouldn't stop until I got to the right person. The result was a call from the dealership I was having a problem with. They had me bring in my vehicle, apologized for the prior crappy service, and told me they would have a loaner ready for me when I brought my vehicle in. When I got there I was met by the dealership manager and the service department manager, was whisked right through the drop off and loaner pick up process and three days later my truck was repaired and waiting for me. They threw in a free oil change as an apology and both the dealership and service manage gave me their direct contact numbers. No muss, no fuss.

You don't have to be aggressive, just refuse to take less than good service and when you don't get it, go straight to the manufacturer.

🙄 that's just shit!

If you don’t like the service, you have two options - personality aside.

1) If “convenient”, service your car at another dealership and explain the problem you’re having.

2) Go public. Though I’m not a big fan, a Google review (that’s negative) will typically cause a reaction. If they fix the problem, and the way you feel you were dealt with, you can always agree to take the review down if the results are satisfactory.

Best of luck!

3 times for the same issue .... lemon law ... i got a new truck because of that

I can understand the frustration of a problem not being fixed even after two attempts.
Problem though -
Asking to speak with a manager or higher up immediately makes someone think, "Karen". I think a lot of people may not realize they are even acting like one.
That aside -

With car sales or ANYthing automotive related, there are damn near nothing but crooks in the industry. Everything from new sales to private party buyers and sellers, service departments etc.

I deal with the public and it doesn't matter if it is a man or a woman, I will go out of my way to help if they are polite. With customers perceived as rude, people try to "pass the buck" which is why they told you to contact the manufacturer.

When rude customers are given something for free, it is because the people running the business are just trying to get said customer out of their hair.

I had an ongoing issue with my Ford Explorer. Not until I contacted Ford Motor Co. and got ahold of a district manager for my area, did my issue finally get resolved. I was also given an additional 3 year and 30 thousand mile warranty for my problems.

All I can think is it might have something to do with how you present yourself. My wife doesn't take crap from anyone and at the garage they don;t dare talk down to her because she'll tell them what's wrong and how to fix it. Plus she has her "teacher look", honed from 35 years of teaching 7th graders, which can scare anyone. LOL

I think both sexes get farther not being rude.
If you were not being rude,then they had absolutely no business treating you that way.
They should be professional either way, but human instinct is to protect self, if one comes at you, so that's why I say, for both sexes, better off not being rude.
Money talks louder than anything, is there another service station you could use?

There are laws in place to deal with this. However if it’s under warranty you can take it to any dealer to get it fixed , not just the one you bought it from . And if it’s in the shop while under warranty they must provide you with a loaner , free of charge.

because there's no substance to your threats, at least in general. Of course you don't have to play sweet only, it's just less likely to blow up in your face, women figured out a long time ago that they could be deceptive instead.

Insist on another car until yours is fixed.
Same year, same model.
Until it is fixed, you will be putting miles on a car they can't turn over and make $$.

I don't like to be prejudged but the otherday I was having a medical procedure that requires twighlight anesthesia to knock me out for 20 to 30 mins. The staff had trouble starting my IV and the Dr turned around and said, " you know technically we can do this without anesthesia". He said in some places they don't have anesthesia.
I truly felt that he offered this to me because he was busy and I am black. I don't think that he would have offered to do my procedure wide awake if I was perceived to be more gentle and sweet (which unfortunately is tied to race).

The point is that people have unconscious bias period. We actually all do a little bit.
Cars are " manly" " Men know more about cars so their opinions can be trusted"
That might not be strictly true but it is unconsciously taught to us so car sales people( mostly men) do subscribe to this.
Just as studies show that pretty aggreeable babies get held twice as much as " ugly" babies so do women have to turn on the charm to get better results at times.

I never “expect “ them to offer a loaner car. When I make the service appointment I tell them I NEED a vehicle for the day. I don’t make the appointment without that agreed to

Not just an American thing, but something peculiar to car sales people and estate agents in my experience 😕 That was such a rude way to deal with your custom 😞

Is the car new or a previously owned car

Yes I have experienced this first hand. Read one of my most recent posts about this. This is sexism.

lol

It's just a "people" thing. You can write a negative review if they didn't do their job properly or mistreated you in some way.

Not just women ...common courtesy shouldn't be uncommon for anyone

I actually did get a new car using the Lemon Law in my state. I went right to the car company and I was taken care of.

Car dealerships are nasty AND incompetent. NEVER get work done there if you can avoid it.

This is why when I need something done with my car I send a my stepdad or my brother. Not that I want go but because I know I will get treated differently. It's effed up that they try and make their money off of being sexist.