Why do women NEED to be sweet and kind in order to get assistance in life but men can act bold and aggressive?

I am having issues with my new car. I have brought it back to the dealership three times (which is inconvenient when you have to work) and the issue remains. Feeling a bit frustrated I asked the "manager" in the service dept. if I could speak with the general manager - service dept. and dealership are attached. I waited 20 minutes before both men arrived looking very stern and said "What exactly is YOUR problem?" I explained the issue (even though they KNEW what the issue was). They looked at each other and jointly agreed (w/o the conversation being directed my way) that the manufacturer should be notified. Meanwhile a gentleman next to me (who came in 30 minutes after I did) was able to leave immediately with a rental because his car was having an oil change.

This is not the first time things like this happen to me.

I explained this to my father and his response was ... "You get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar" WTF? Was there a time lapse back to 1962 that I am unaware of? My time and money is just as valuable as a man's.

Is this an American thing ... Is this a sexism thing?

It's depressing knowing that I have the rest of my life having to deal with this.

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Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

because there's no substance to your threats, at least in general. Of course you don't have to play sweet only, it's just less likely to blow up in your face, women figured out a long time ago that they could be deceptive instead.

dontbekoi · 36-40, F

@Jackaloftheazuresand I did not threaten anyone and have failed to learn the fine art of deception. ☮️

Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

@dontbekoi Nonono. I mean that in women being smaller, whatever threats they could make which one would need for an aggressive approach are shrugged off. Ah if you had any sort of peer interaction you've learned it. Heck, sometimes just your sex is all you need because a woman will be trusted over a man when it comes to "he said she said" and you don't even have to be purposefully trying to deceive for it to work

dontbekoi · 36-40, F

@Jackaloftheazuresand Oh, I see what you are saying. I agree there are times when this is SADLY the case. Navigating the waters of the sexes can be tricky because you have no idea who you are dealing with and what their experiences have been. I just think of everyone being equal but different ... and that's ok. Thank you for your explanation 😊