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ServantOfTheGoddess · 61-69, M
My daughter who is about your age also keeps giving herself a hard time trying to figure out her whole life. My wife and I keep trying to convince her that she does not need to work it all out!! She and you are still young and hopefully there are many years of life ahead of you to experience all kinds of things.
When I volunteered for a while in an old folks' home I was appalled by how many of the old people there were sad about their lives and felt they had been stuck in jobs they didn't like or marriages with people they weren't happy with. Don't be like them!! Don't give in to the pressures to take an office job. It clearly is not for you, at least at this time in your life.
Has the concept of a "gap year" arrived in Japan? If not, maybe you can introduce it. Suggest to your parents that before you make big life decisions you would like to take a year off, go and live (and work if possible) in some other country, and experience different sides of life.
There are a variety of websites for young people looking for jobs in different parts of the world. I know a young woman who went from Canada to Europe to work in a bakery or something like that for a year. It can be done.
If you could make this happen, it would also give your family a chance to get used to you not studying or doing dull work all the time. It would give you and them space to think about other possibilities.
Fly, @Arukas3! Be free! 🤗
When I volunteered for a while in an old folks' home I was appalled by how many of the old people there were sad about their lives and felt they had been stuck in jobs they didn't like or marriages with people they weren't happy with. Don't be like them!! Don't give in to the pressures to take an office job. It clearly is not for you, at least at this time in your life.
Has the concept of a "gap year" arrived in Japan? If not, maybe you can introduce it. Suggest to your parents that before you make big life decisions you would like to take a year off, go and live (and work if possible) in some other country, and experience different sides of life.
There are a variety of websites for young people looking for jobs in different parts of the world. I know a young woman who went from Canada to Europe to work in a bakery or something like that for a year. It can be done.
If you could make this happen, it would also give your family a chance to get used to you not studying or doing dull work all the time. It would give you and them space to think about other possibilities.
Fly, @Arukas3! Be free! 🤗
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originnone · 56-60, M
@ServantOfTheGoddess I'm having a lot of trouble seeing how you read that into my comments, but ok....
ServantOfTheGoddess · 61-69, M
@originnone not your comments!!! sree25's comments.
originnone · 56-60, M
@ServantOfTheGoddess No problem...my future daughter in law is half Japanese. Her mother was in Japan right after WWII....I sometimes wonder about her thoughts but am kind of afraid to ask. Personally, I have no animosity towards the Japanese...I guess it takes one or two generations maybe....IDK
originnone · 56-60, M
I'm on the other side of life. I'm turning 60 and just put in my retirement paperwork. My wife has major health issues and I care for her, so I can't work. My own personal thought is that it's better to get some of of what you want in the near future....don't want until you're where I am.
I'd say you're actually lucky because it's far easier to move from Japan to another country and find work there than from another country to Japan, which is a dream of some people I know. Most European countries have far more lenient immigration policy than Japan. You can do it if you get determined that that's really what you want and put effort into it.
If you're still in uni the best thing you can do is to use the benefits students have and go to a study stay abroad, experience different culture, talk to people there and learn how market works there.
If you're still in uni the best thing you can do is to use the benefits students have and go to a study stay abroad, experience different culture, talk to people there and learn how market works there.
Arukas3 · 18-21, F
@CrazyMusicLover thanks for ur message! As you said, I have to appreciate how blessed I am to have relatively many opportunities living in japan. Now that I’m considering studying abroad, I will focus on developing my future visions before wasting time worrying too much about my future.
BiasForAction · M
Your English is very good. That alone suggests you are well educated and a good communicator. Why not work for an American company that operates in Japan and other nations, there could be opportunities down the road to relocate to a foreign country.. just a thought
sree251 · 41-45, M
@BiasForAction Great thought, but it is a plan for struggle, and that is the source of more misery.
Arukas3 · 18-21, F
@BiasForAction Thank you both for your messages. And thank you so much for the compliments. That job sounds great, but to be honest, I am not confident enough to say I could work at such a company... I would like to live abroad eventually, so I will focus on gaining experience and language skills before I actually leave Japan!
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
Your English is actually fairly decent. I can understand some of what you desire. I too have stayed too dream of getting a home in the countryside and living away from the fast pace of city life. I sort of work in an office right now. With changes from the pandemic it is easier to work remotely so I could possibly keep my office job and go to the country. But I need to save up more for that.
So I can understand your dream and share it a little bit.
I think you need to prioritize your dreams.
If you want to be a farmer or fisherman in Japan, then you should pursue that. But it is difficult to have that career and then move to a foreign country.
If you want to move to a foreign country you should seek a high paying job and live frugally so you can save money to move. Tech skills like programming are often the easiest for moving around. But you'll have to work in that area long enough to try to apply for citizenship in that country unless you plan to try to marry into citizenship.
It is not an easy path you seek. But I wish you luck. Feel free to reach out if you have other questions or want to know what US countryside is like.
So I can understand your dream and share it a little bit.
I think you need to prioritize your dreams.
If you want to be a farmer or fisherman in Japan, then you should pursue that. But it is difficult to have that career and then move to a foreign country.
If you want to move to a foreign country you should seek a high paying job and live frugally so you can save money to move. Tech skills like programming are often the easiest for moving around. But you'll have to work in that area long enough to try to apply for citizenship in that country unless you plan to try to marry into citizenship.
It is not an easy path you seek. But I wish you luck. Feel free to reach out if you have other questions or want to know what US countryside is like.
Arukas3 · 18-21, F
@ViciDraco Thank you so much for your kind words. I’ve been thinking about my future recently, and I realized keenly that I was too ignorant to live alone in a country where I don’t know well enough. I need to gain an ability to live myself and become independently first, so I will work in Japan until I can gain enough experiences as well as language skills. Still tho, I want to live abroad at some point!
Rambler · M
the first step is to have a dream and to know what you want and what you don't want. best wishes to you as you pursue your dreams.
Khenpal1 · M
emigrate, worry later
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