I’m Worried about My Future (sorry for my bad English and writing)

Hi, I’m a Japanese woman and I just turned 20 few days ago. Im not sure but maybe because of it I suddenly started to worry about my future so much that I can’t sleep well or even I sometimes suddenly cry…

Im going to start job hunting from this year, so I started to analyze myself, what I worked hard for in these uni student period, what I want to do after graduation or stuff like this. But the more I analyze myself, the more I realize that I did literally nothing in my uni period and I’m completely unsure what I want to do or where I want to work at. To be honest, I don’t wanna work that hard and I’m so sick of the way how we, Japanese work at the office. We don’t have any free time if we work at the office, and most of office workers lifestyles are completely inconvenient and not fun at all.

My future dream, after I get old, is to live in the countryside in foreign country where is surrounded by nature, and to do my hobbies all day and live so freely and comfortably. I’ve had a big desire for a free lifestyle for a long time, and I used to have a strong yearning for the free life of a pirate and the freedom of working on a ranch when I was a kid.This could be the reason of my future dream…

I know I have to work hard, sacrificing many things and endure the inconvenient life in order to achieve my future dream… but when I think of myself living that unfree and uncomfortable life after graduation, I can’t help but cry and despair. You would think that if I don’t wanna work at the office that much I should work as a farmer or a fisherman or like that, but the thing is, I go to a quite good and expensive university in japan now thanks to my father, and I don’t want to make my family and relatives get disappointed in me because they seem to have high expectations towards me. I’m not saying a farmer or fisherman are not good job that are considered as “disappointing job”, but I just don’t have any knowledges to do those jobs and if I get the job like that, what I’m learning in uni right now will end up being worthless and waste of money and time. (I’m learning commerce and business in university) I’m not even sure what I’m writing right now… but I want opinions from you guys, not from Japanese people. What job seems good for me? How can I disappear those worries?

I’m considering working abroad, but I know nothing about the work style of foreign countries and I don’t have enough language skills… I know I use excuses so much to avoid working hard and im so ignorant about the society. But please be kind to me… and I’m sorry for my poor English and long sentences.

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ViciDraco · 36-40, M

Your English is actually fairly decent. I can understand some of what you desire. I too have stayed too dream of getting a home in the countryside and living away from the fast pace of city life. I sort of work in an office right now. With changes from the pandemic it is easier to work remotely so I could possibly keep my office job and go to the country. But I need to save up more for that.

So I can understand your dream and share it a little bit.

I think you need to prioritize your dreams.

If you want to be a farmer or fisherman in Japan, then you should pursue that. But it is difficult to have that career and then move to a foreign country.

If you want to move to a foreign country you should seek a high paying job and live frugally so you can save money to move. Tech skills like programming are often the easiest for moving around. But you'll have to work in that area long enough to try to apply for citizenship in that country unless you plan to try to marry into citizenship.

It is not an easy path you seek. But I wish you luck. Feel free to reach out if you have other questions or want to know what US countryside is like.

sree251 · 41-45, M

@ViciDraco What do you know about US countryside? Are you talking about rural America?

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

@sree251 Yes. It is where I grew up. And where I still have some family.

sree251 · 41-45, M

@ViciDraco Do you have internet and cable TV where you are at?

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

@sree251 I do not presently live in rural America. I had to pay the cable company myself to extend the line to my folk's house just so that they could get access to broadband and cable TV.

sree251 · 41-45, M

@ViciDraco You did good to run that line to your folks' home. Now you can reach them whenever. I hate to say this, great as life away from the city is, we have become "connected" to each other as social beings. I always get a lift when I am in the country living among critters and nature. However, there is this need for connection to "the world".

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

@sree251 absolutely. My brothers didn't do as well as myself and my folks had to take in some of my neices and nephews. I didn't want those kids growing up as cut off as I was. Especially with schools everywhere, even in rural areas, just assuming people have access to internet for their studies.

sree251 · 41-45, M

@ViciDraco Sounds like you have a good family. Your contribution to their well-being speaks well of your upbringing. Back in the old frontier days, people helped each other out.

Arukas3 · 18-21, F

@ViciDraco Thank you so much for your kind words. I’ve been thinking about my future recently, and I realized keenly that I was too ignorant to live alone in a country where I don’t know well enough. I need to gain an ability to live myself and become independently first, so I will work in Japan until I can gain enough experiences as well as language skills. Still tho, I want to live abroad at some point!

sree251 · 41-45, M

@Arukas3 Japan is the best place for Japanese to live in. Japan is not a country where people are behaving badly. In America, people behave very badly.