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Do the people you find interesting, find you interesting?

I feel the people I could actually open up with never want anything to do with me 😆 They’ll even sometimes tell me to hit them up but then they never respond.

Yet I can attract a user in a millisecond.

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Ontheroad · M

You might find those people, the interesting ones, aren't blowing you off but it's more that they are interesting, caring, fun, intelligent and empathic people who are so involved with their current range of friends, interest and activities, that they simply can't find the time to expand their circle... users on the other hand, use and give nothing and always have time to use more.

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Ontheroad · M

@SW-User as a single parent you are in a particularly difficult situation. You and a few million other single parents. Having time for you outside of the time it takes to raise (and all that raise entails) a child is hard. Really hard. Sometimes it feels like you have but one of two choices... forget about any sort of time and relationship you want/need, or ignore the needs of your child and do your thing.

Give it time and you will find the right person... they are out there. I know that for a fact. I've known more than one man who had had no problem dating and eventually pairing with a woman who had children at home. It is tricky to find the right person - they have to be extremely flexible (your time is limited to odd and few horus) and until you are ready to trust them enough to introduce them to your children, they have to understand they are and will have to remain secondary to your child. Not all men can handle that, but when you find him, and you will, he will be a keeper.

SW-User

@Ontheroad Well said

SW-User

@Ontheroad Aw, thank you for acknowledging me. It helps sometimes to hear that I’m not exactly open and available for others either. I have settled into the solitude nicely now because I choose to be a good mom. Except on Saturday nights 😆 ultimately I believe it can happen too, but I’m cool if it doesn’t. I had a hard time accepting what I lost, then what I couldn’t have, now I’m just thankful for my son. Cuz geez I wouldn’t care about anything if not for him 🖤

WhateverWorks · 36-40

(Only speaking for my own situation) Sometimes it’s just that people get busy with their lives: work, family, a couple friends they already have a hard time making space for.

Then there’s this other thing where the older people get the less they feel like taking a chance on adding someone new into their life who might be cool, but also might bring with them a bunch of issues/drama.
I’m kinda in the middle with that. When I was working really hard to get myself/life together people would extend friendship to me, but I’d sense they had stuff going on that I didn’t want to deal with. Meanwhile, people who I’d like to become friends with could sense I had stuff going on they didn’t want to deal with 🤷🏻‍♀️😅

SW-User

@WhateverWorks You’re right. I get it and I accept that.

throughTheMotions · 51-55, M

The things that consume most of my thought process deeply, either due to career activities (technology), or personal passions (musician) are things that most don't find interesting at the granular level (unless that person also has a passion for those things) But being a passionate person, I've learned to channel this into more universal interests (dance, food, art, causes, activities, society), or the passions of others. My issue has been common interests in the past, so I've learned to force myself to find interests in others, as long as I personally can find a way to connect to it in some sort of meaningful spiritual way. I find passion in understanding people's differences from my viewpoint or perspective. That being said, I'll never be a true conformist. For instance, you'll never find me golfing with colleagues.

SW-User

You seem to be a person who is easygoing and fun. Most people want that, most people are attracted to that. You are on giant magnet. And the ones that don't respond never know what they are missing

SW-User

@SW-User I feel like a polar opposite

SW-User

@SW-User Maybe others don't feel he way you do. It's all in their perception

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I'm usually too shy around those kinds of people so I rarely ever get even close to them.
But I had a funny experience when a guy wanted to impress me with his work but all I was interested in was his energy as a person and his looks. 😅 It's so freaking unlikely for me but it happened and I didn't know how to tell him his creations didn't speak to me in any way. It made me a bit sad but well, no tragedy there.

smiler2012 · 56-60

{@copperfox420] sorry that is the case the problem with some is they are wrapped up with there own problems or just do not want to know . your need to find someone who is kind and genuine with a good ear and prepared to listen too you issues and problem

Isthisit · F

I think first gauge weather a person is open towards you enough
, then when youre really sure, open up to them. But i think you have to be more sure of them

Lemony1199 · F

I think you are good ,
Yes same here but I think you should stick to who you really are 😊.

SW-User

@Lemony1199 Thank you 🫂 I can only be me, and I’m open, I like a lot of different people. I see the good in peeps but nobody bothers to know me unless it’s someone who is bullshitting me. It’s getting weird and confusing 😂

Lemony1199 · F

Those who really care about you will definitely CARE knowing you despite what really you are, I don't think it's matters when you are caring about each other what do you look, your character whatever it's just people caring about each other.
You're welcome 🫂@SW-User

calicuz · 56-60, M

It sounds like they're only interested in you being interested in them.

SW-User

@calicuz yeah I’ve noticed that dynamic and it sucks 😆 I’m constantly drained around others. And I worried I was too self centered but then I remembered I’ve done some cool shit and had an adventurous life, I deserve to be known too.

OnePatheticClown · 51-55, M

🤔 the only beings I find interesting usually fly by i their UFOs

SW-User

@OnePatheticClown next time I’m flying by I’ll stop in 👽

BridgeOvertroubledWaters · 61-69, M

I always get the feeling that I'm boring and people aren't interested in me

DisturbOne · 41-45, M

I’m in to resting , very! Lmao

SW-User

@DisturbOne go back to bed 😆

DisturbOne · 41-45, M

@SW-User I’ve not left my bed . That floor is fucking crazy cold .. brrrr

SW-User

I'm not sure. Never asked them. But I think some at least do.

SW-User

I don’t think people think I’m interesting because I have a boring life and nothing exciting to talk about. I try to not tell people too much about myself online because it’s not worth them using it against me. I stopped caring if people like me or not. If they don’t like you the way you are then they are not the right friends for you. Friendship does take a long time to develop.

FrozenGuy · 61-69, M

I think it is the times we are living in. Nowadays, people have so many options, that they never take the time to get to know someone, unless they are getting an immediate, tangible benefit of some kind, or they hope to receive it in the near future. Otherwise, they jump from one person to the next, seeking something very specific, which probably doesn't exist.

UnholyTranquility · 36-40, M

Nope. I don't even find myself interesting.

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JustNik · 51-55, F

I’m not sure anyone has ever actually found me interesting. I’m usually more just pleasant or a little different and quite easily discarded. It’s my comfort zone now to enjoy an interest in others while remaining safely tucked away myself for the most part. 🤷‍♀️

Jeephikelove · 51-55, F

I think so 🤔

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scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M

I don’t know.

Finding someone interesting is different to finding someone worth something.

If people see value in you or find something truly amazing about you , they will stick to you and make the effort.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

Nope.

I am always interested in artistic, bookish, musical people. They are rarely interested in me although I am all of those things too.

Skitzo · 56-60, M

I dont attract them, they knock me down as they fight over who gets some next... it neve ends

This is in a " not so good way " I'll add.

zorroo · 56-60, M

people don't find me interesting until they know me well, then I'm not only interesting to them but lovable too.

SW-User

I really have no idea. I tend to attract people I don't care for.

Lostpoet · M

I'm really bad at holding conversations.

ElRengo · 70-79, M

Usually.
That´s why they are few.

Reflection2 · M

People I find interesting 🤔

caccoon · 36-40

I think??? I'm starting to learn the more valuable people you have to be really patient with.

I always fall for people that lovebomb the heck out of me and abuse me, but it's what they're good at. They give this attractive show and it makes me love them so easily

But I think the ones that aren't like that take a long time to get into. But I am impatient and passionate and I love being wild with people right away haha. Maybe I am a lovebomber too... no idea

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SW-User

@Stereoguy I wish there was something more I could do but I’m tapped out being a mom. Maybe later in life things will turn around in the friendship department. Thank you for always being kind 🫂

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