Do the people you find interesting, find you interesting?

I feel the people I could actually open up with never want anything to do with me 😆 They’ll even sometimes tell me to hit them up but then they never respond.

Yet I can attract a user in a millisecond.

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Ontheroad · M

You might find those people, the interesting ones, aren't blowing you off but it's more that they are interesting, caring, fun, intelligent and empathic people who are so involved with their current range of friends, interest and activities, that they simply can't find the time to expand their circle... users on the other hand, use and give nothing and always have time to use more.

AlchemyFox · 36-40, F

@Ontheroad This makes so much sense. And most people my age do have families and friends already revolving around them. I just got in a weird spot losing my family nearly all at once and not many people my age are in a similar situation. So when I reach out the only kind of person available is the takers.

Not much I can do about it then. Nobody is gonna take my son and I into their lives. Maybe later in life I can have friends.

Ontheroad · M

@AlchemyFox as a single parent you are in a particularly difficult situation. You and a few million other single parents. Having time for you outside of the time it takes to raise (and all that raise entails) a child is hard. Really hard. Sometimes it feels like you have but one of two choices... forget about any sort of time and relationship you want/need, or ignore the needs of your child and do your thing.

Give it time and you will find the right person... they are out there. I know that for a fact. I've known more than one man who had had no problem dating and eventually pairing with a woman who had children at home. It is tricky to find the right person - they have to be extremely flexible (your time is limited to odd and few horus) and until you are ready to trust them enough to introduce them to your children, they have to understand they are and will have to remain secondary to your child. Not all men can handle that, but when you find him, and you will, he will be a keeper.

SW-User

@Ontheroad Well said

AlchemyFox · 36-40, F

@Ontheroad Aw, thank you for acknowledging me. It helps sometimes to hear that I’m not exactly open and available for others either. I have settled into the solitude nicely now because I choose to be a good mom. Except on Saturday nights 😆 ultimately I believe it can happen too, but I’m cool if it doesn’t. I had a hard time accepting what I lost, then what I couldn’t have, now I’m just thankful for my son. Cuz geez I wouldn’t care about anything if not for him 🖤