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Is it customary to ask someone to be your friend or does it happen naturally?

I find whenever I ask someone to be my friend I get one of two responses.
It’s either “What’s your name again? I’m reporting you to HR!”
“Dude, back away from my car or I’m calling the cops!”

Does this happen to you?
bookerdana · M Best Comment
Maybe you better hold off on using your face as an avatar 😁
@bookerdana This is so cruelly hilarious I'm going to give you Best Comment.

If you will be my friend.
bookerdana · M
@bookerdana thanks for bc
@bookerdana no strings attached, other than you are now my BFF!

Nanori · 31-35, F
Yeah it used to happen..... In kindergarten
@Nanori Yes…I think that’s what the other kids meant when they called me “Mr Go-Between”
So…we are friends now after this exchange?
Nanori · 31-35, F
@Ghostinthemachine no we're besties
@Nanori My BFF! 🤗
Magenta · F
I don't get the whole concept. I never look for or initiate "friendship". Maybe I'm too independent and also find most people exhausting. People I am friends with (here), it just happened naturally through time. When I am, I am loyal. Mostly I can't be bothered. I don't need constant validation or support.
@Magenta I look for friends in every nook and cranny...and bus stop.
I don't mean to bother you but...will you be my friend?
ravenwind43 · 46-50, F
I know you meant this to be amusing:)
However this is a real thing for a lot of people. I myself have not had a friend since the early 2000's (offline and to hang out with)
I miss having friends but not sure how to change it. Making friends is far different as an adult.
@ravenwind43 So do I. Every friend, whether online or off, contributes to my life in a positive way
ravenwind43 · 46-50, F
@Ghostinthemachine You are a friend regardless :)
@ravenwind43 I regard you as a friend as well 🙂
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
Becoming friends should be an organic process - if not the people aren't meant to be your friends.
@butterflybaby75 By organic, you mean they shouldn’t be on antibiotics or growth hormones if they are my friend.
Do you take steroids?
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
@Ghostinthemachine No by organic I mean if people are going to become your friends or become other people's friend it should be natural and not forced. I don't take any drugs.
@butterflybaby75 Perfect! Will you be my friend?
SilkenMist · 46-50, F
I would like to know too. I need more friends, all my old ones escaped.
@SilkenMist So is it safe to assume we are best friends now?
SilkenMist · 46-50, F
@Ghostinthemachine Well, it is more than that. I do not want to rush things so we should date for at least a week and then we can start making wedding plans.
@SilkenMist You do realize a week is like...six days...72 hours. Why wait so long?
Are you having doubts???
It's not customary.
Friendship develops from many enouncters together, gradually getting to know each other better.

Sometimes people discover something they don't like, at which point:
they might decide to keep a friendly acquaintanceship at a slight distance,
or they might back off and go silent and cold,
or they might try to sort it out, accept the difference, and go deeper.

No two friendships are the same.
@hartfire These are very wise words. So lets start off as friends, and if we need to, dial it back to acquaintances within the 48 hour trial period, ok?
It’s funny, I don’t think I’ve ever come out and asked. I’ve struck up a conversation, or they have, and it just evolved from there.
@bijouxbroussard I think it was the thing to do back in kindergarten.
So would you…you know…be my friend?
@Ghostinthemachine I’m already your friend. 🤗
@bijouxbroussard My BFF! 🤗
It just happens naturally, I never ask
@SlippingAway Cool! My latest BFF! 🤗
bookerdana · M
@Ghostinthemachine you have a lotta BFFs😃
@bookerdana Best implies above all the rest, so there can be only one BFF!
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
It just happens. That’s kind of awkward to ask
@DeluxedEdition My BFF! 🤗
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
Besties 6eva @Ghostinthemachine
@DeluxedEdition We already have our own secret BFF language!
What does “Besties 6eva” mean? 🤔
RogueLoner · 61-69, M
The more standoffish and the more I want to be left alone, the more people want to be my 'friend'. The more workaday, unattractive, surly, and unkempt I try to be, the more women approach or flirt with me.
People are insane.
Magenta · F
@RogueLoner Lol!

[quote]The more standoffish and the more I want to be left alone, the more people want to be my 'friend'[/quote]
I thought these things only happen in books like Anne of Green Gables or that sort of thing.
@CrazyMusicLover I live near a gable, and I like the color green.
Does this make us friends now?
AlwaySmilez · 22-25, F
When someone asks to hang out with you or Vice Versa ! Then a friendship is growing
@AlwaySmilez So when I call someone in the listings and ask to be friends, and they hang out the phone, that means our friendship is growing?
CopperFox420 · 36-40, F
You can make friends?
@CopperFox420 Can I add you to my rapidly growing list of imaginary friends?
CopperFox420 · 36-40, F
@Ghostinthemachine But if you have too many you’ll forget about me 😞
@CopperFox420 that is impossible! But if I do achieve the impossible (which I have before) just sing this song to me
starmitz · 51-55, F
thank god it's not only me 😛
@starmitz Only you? 🤔
You mean…you’re my only friend?

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