The next several years...friends fading away?

I think it's very easy to get a sense of your own mortality once you hit your 50's.
Especially in recent times.

Doesn't help that every other ad on tv is for funeral plans; private healthcare or leaving a gift in your will to just about every charity out there !

But it's a sad fact that once you hit this age bracket it seems you're more susceptible to cancers and other human gremlins and with a massive shortage in carers and care home provision, plus this never ending general depression the whole world is hurtling through, you realise it could be any one us with little or no notice indeed

I'm a musician in my mid 50's now. I've been playing live for 36 years and yeah in some ways I'm not as good a player as I was aged 25. However I am more tasteful a player now.
I think I will have arthritis in a few years and that will stop me playing.
Sadly a few people I have played with in bands have died.
My tutor though..he is in his mid 70's and he plays gigs several times a week!
So there is hope I guess.

I'm anticipating the death of my parents and my aloneness after that

Yeah. I just had this conversation yesterday with a friend. He's a few years younger, early 50's and now has a 9 month old, hopes to be around long enough to see her grow up. So many people I once worked with are now gone. One guy younger than me has cancer and has quit taking treatments, I remember when we rode to work together almost 30 years ago.. A girl I once dated died from covid, another girl I dated recently lost her husband. Now my dad is about gone and I'm trying to spend as much time with him as I can. Maybe we have a few weeks left but he's going down fast.

It's not that I'm dreading it, but still, I'll be lucky if I'm here another 20 years. There's heart issues on both sides of the family, plus my father and sisters have some sort of blood disorders that seemingly run in the family. I tend to stay as far away from doctors as I possibly can so I don't really know what I have or don't have.

A dear friend is terminal and entering the last stage. My husband has lung cancer so yes, definitely feeling this way.

I lost my two very best friends in the last couple of years. We'd been friends for over 40 years. I miss them, lots.

Nah, i dont think about death but i know its coming for me. Its part of the life process. I dont fear it as my life has been a good life. Have married, had good kids, good grandkids. Supported my family and was a positive influence on most that i have known. What more could i ask for.

I lost a best friend 3 weeks ago. First of my peers. It was so much different than losing my parents at 89.

The best thing you can do is be there for him. So many find the end too difficult and walk away. Instead cherish every moment. 🤗🤗

I've lost a lot of friends and relatives over the years. A lot of friends I've known the longest are also older than me. I just look to enjoy the alive time we have with each other when we have it.

Just lost a good friend last week was unexpected have another with terminal cancer and one with congestive heart failure, and know its not going to get better as I age!

Yes especially since an ex just died and we’re only 50.

Yes…I recently found out that someone I once loved deeply (but still considered a friend) passed away last month. My small circle of friends keeps dwindling. Now I’m understanding how my parents were feeling. When I was younger, my mother especially had so many friends, mostly through church and social groups she was a part of. Pop had his friends from his fraternity. But it got so that they were attending funerals every week. Mom used to say that "if you live a long life, this is the payoff."

Yes. Lynn and I have lost close friends the past few years and know that others will follow sooner than we think. I am spending more time getting things ready for my death.

Yeah. And for some of prior bandmates, it will be impossible to not know that they’ve passed. It’s just so wierd. No one prepared me for growing old, man. Ugh.

My friends are at least 10 years younger than me. I have been behaving as far as my diet and should have no real issues for 20 years.

I hope I die before everyone else. I don’t think could handle losing everyone I care about in the future.

Was married 45 years ago, I had five groomsmen, today only one is alive. So yeah, I know how you feel.

Well, all of that is true, so you start developing new younger friends as well as cherishing the older ones.

Time will wait for no one, so solutions are what we need. Our intelligence tells us what we are not looking forward to and it will also provide solutions for us.

Sure, but accidents, etc., take us all the time.

There's one way in, but myriad ways out.