The next several years...friends fading away?

I realize this is a question probably for the older SWeeps here, but are you dreading the next few years? I am. I just received word of a friend and bandmate's declining health--he says he can no longer play--and my fear is that, as he battles his illness, that he is probably not long for this world. But he's been sick for a while now. Then, I begin thinking of others who aren't in the shape they once were and it becomes a huge anxious death-spiral.

After all, our timelines intrinsically overlap. I've said it to many of my friends--either I'm going to your funeral or you're going to mine.

Are any of you feeling this way?

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robb65 · 56-60, M

Yeah. I just had this conversation yesterday with a friend. He's a few years younger, early 50's and now has a 9 month old, hopes to be around long enough to see her grow up. So many people I once worked with are now gone. One guy younger than me has cancer and has quit taking treatments, I remember when we rode to work together almost 30 years ago.. A girl I once dated died from covid, another girl I dated recently lost her husband. Now my dad is about gone and I'm trying to spend as much time with him as I can. Maybe we have a few weeks left but he's going down fast.

It's not that I'm dreading it, but still, I'll be lucky if I'm here another 20 years. There's heart issues on both sides of the family, plus my father and sisters have some sort of blood disorders that seemingly run in the family. I tend to stay as far away from doctors as I possibly can so I don't really know what I have or don't have.