Did you ever think you were friends with someone and then realised.. Well it was all one sided. 😔

All the time when I realized I was the only one initiating contact.

Yep, I think that most of us have been there. I was a people pleaser for years until the broken people killed that side of me. I've become a lot more resilient but I've also lost parts of me along the way so it's plusses and minuses.

Many times. It left me bitter and disillusioned with friendship for a long time.

Yeah. Usually with men. They often have alterior motives, that I should see from the start, but I don't make friends easily so I just run with it while it lasts. Then boom, the weirdness happens. My fault I guess hahaha.

I'm the little kid, the gorilla is them

Every time I’ve established a genuine connection with someone irl they move or I move and we’d both lose contact. It’s been like this since elementary school , where I struggled to make friends, every time I did find a good friend her parents would move or mine would. I think I’m destined to not have close friends irl.

Yup i got lead on too by her and i thought we was friends cause i hella put myself out there for her too but then i found out it was all one sided and i meant nothing to her and i was just there to give her attention and validation & i served my purpose & she threw me away.

Now im careful with people, i mean i always been but im super cautious now, cause u never know whose wearing a mask.

Sinks vs radiators.

A friend once said there are two types friends. Sinks leave you feeling drained.
Radiators leave you feeling warmed.

Yes. I have been their friend but they weren't mine.

It has happened.
But I am also sure I have been that 'friend' for some people too.
I could get engrossed with something/ someone in a way that I could not give back into certain relationships. In hindsight, I now realise that I could and should have done better but then I also have a certain kind of maturity now I did not then.

Yes quite recently, only by chance, then I found out that friendship was simply a case of using. Usually I’m fine, however there have been the odd occasions when I call out on it. Invariably it’s when you need that help from that friend and you realise actually they don’t care.

Too many times that I'd like to admit. Silly of me to consider everyone a friend lol but with that attitude I made some really good friendships

Yes

Yes
On here I always write back until they stop. Months can go by then they pop by saying hi and I start talking to them again then they disappear again for months even tho I see them on here everyday. But I don't say anything. 🤷🏼‍♀

Many a time after years of friendship, I'd stop to ponder on the subject and relationship.

I'm a person who gives from my heart and attract many a Narcissist.

I have tried to make new friends as I have gotten older, but that's how it feels. I invited people to go to places, but then noone invites me in return. It makes me wonder whats wrong with me.

Not in a long time. I used to make good friends though. Unfortunately they passed away or moved away. I haven't attempted a friendship in almost a decade.

Yep. I don't like having to make all the effort, open up, and realize I know nothing about the other. I now try to sniff out in advance if that will happen and avoid it.

Yes and I’m fine with that. I’d rather have a few real friends rather than a lot of fake ones.

Yep for 18 years I was friends with someone and when I realized it was exactly like that. I cut that friendship immediately.

Yup.

But I think it was mutual initially 🙄 than it became something where I'm not needed anymore.

I rather wonder what do they still write me for if they stop after a short time. Or is there something wrong with my replies? Last time I told my childhood friend about that one time this year I had fun and suddenly no reply. Another friend told me he was coming to my city and asked if I'd like to meet him. A couple of days later he wrote that after reading about what's going on here politically he doesn't feel like coming anymore so I replied "thank you for your support". Like..I live here, what was I supposed to say to that?

Just this past week i learned that about my "best friend. "

Yes. It's only when you need them that you realise it

Seemingly so, all the time.

Yes, so many times

Yeah and I miss her

Too many times to count

When they ignore me I always feel so

Its happened.

More than I care to admit

Yes a friendship of 20yrs i had to end because i couldnt deal with the selfishness. Takes me a long time to just erase someone out my life. But i get to certain point and im done, i dont even miss them if anything feel less stressed having not listen to the bullshit and constant negativity.

Yes, alas. I have had that experience. 🥺

Yes....makes me appreciate those that stick around even more xx

Yes so many times. I don’t have the energy to be in one sided friendships, it’s too draining and I am too unwell to have someone just take and take.

Let’s be friends and support each other 🩷.

Then there are the friendships where you find out that they weren’t a totally your friend, that really sucks.

Too many times to count