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Your best friend has confided in you...

Poll - Total Votes: 40
I will respect their wishes
I need to tell at least a close relative (like a parent)
Try to Persuade them to change their mind
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That unfortunately they have been diagnosed with a terminal illness. They may not make it out the year. They ask you not to tell anyone at all as they want to be the one to tell friends and family themselves.

They have not given any time frame for when they will deliver the news as as they are still coming to the realization that they may die soon.

You are very close with the family and have several mutual friends. How will you handle this? Can you keep this a secret?
MellyMel22 · F
I would respect their wishes, but it’d be hard for sure. If shared w/someone close to them, it’d likely be obvious and hard to hide knowing. Def a bad position to be in, but in the end I couldn’t live w/myself knowing I betrayed their confidence, so I wouldn’t.
smiler2012 · 56-60
{theunderdogofny] as working in the health service i am use to confidentiality. i would certainly respect there wishes too keep quiet about there illness
Gusman · 61-69, M
That information is your friends' to give. You were chosen and to betray that trust at this dreadful time would shatter him/her.
Keep the confidence.
Neoerectus · M
I will try to persuade them to change their mind... my mother did this and her friends were crushed.
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
I would keep my mouth shut
I would keep the confidence even if I disagreed (and I have done, in that situation). It would not be my information to share. 😞
SW-User
If anyone of those close friends and family can save my friend I would contact them.

If not, I would just follow my friends wishes.
SW-User
when in doubt, do nothing

the family and friends will have to respect the persons decision as well.
Katie01 · F
I'd either tell people or unfriend them there and then. I hate self centred people like that
Ferric67 · M
respect their wishes and do whatever I can to help them out.
Travelbug · 56-60, F
Yes they will tell their family when they feel the time is right.
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
My mind is the Fort Knox of secrets.
I can and I would honor their wishes!
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Even though I'd feel for the family and friends, in no way would I want to take away the person's privacy, as well as power.
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Respect the trust, be confidential.
MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F
☹️ oh God
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I would stay quiet. That’s not my need to tell
Or share.
Lilnonames · F
Been through that and no they did not keep a secret and it exploded im no longer friends with many who did this
TheunderdogofNY · 36-40, M
@Lilnonames I see. Sometimes people have good intentions. But sometimes people should respect their friend's wishes if that is what they are asking. It's definitely tough. It would be hard to see someone's mom or dad and know that their child is dying and they don't know yet and I'm sworn to secrecy. Definitely tough.

 
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