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Is It normal for a 50 year old man
To be hanging out and drink with 19-23yr olds ?

Tell me it's not normal !? And why would they do it ?

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Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F

My 50 year old bf
Have been partying with the young boys
They aren't even grown up .
All acts like teenagers.
And when I speak to him about it
He flips. 🙄

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Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F

Jealous over what ?
A 50 yr old man. Partying with a 19 yr old. That acts like a kid .. yea that's something to be he laid over. Ffs .. to me. It's childish on his behalf. @Rhode57

empanadas · 31-35, M

@Ifollowmyownstar mid life crisis

Repete · 61-69, M

Normal or not , that is the question, who knows what’s normal for someone else? It’s not my cup of tea but I don’t believe Every man only has sex on their minds . Friends do go out for a drink or just a relaxing time without the drama of sex entering the picture. That’s just my opinion

I’m not going to judge a man or a woman by who they see or where they go, that’s totally up to them.

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Repete · 61-69, M

Again assuming there’s a partner, this needs more knowledge of the people involved and take it from there if you are a friend and not just a busybody.
That is a tough place to get into , you may lose a friend or friends. Need to know both sides, both people@bijouxbroussard

bijouxbroussard · F

@Repete I read further down where the OP says:

Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F
My 50 year old bf
Have been partying with the young boys
They aren't even grown up .
All acts like teenagers.
And when I speak to him about it
He flips. 🙄

If this were a stranger, neighbor, acquaintance, yes I’d say mind your business. But in the context of an intimate relationship I’d want to know. And if I couldn’t talk to him about it, he wouldn’t be my boyfriend anymore.

Repete · 61-69, M

I don’t see that part. But I did answer part of that by accident . If this is the case he may be trying to decide what he wants to do with his life because he may not be happy about how his life is going.him and his partner needs to talk it is between them two. Again a friendly question from a friend could help but accusing him of doing anything more than what is known will not help anyone. He may need help but he has to ask and want the help. Same with his partner in my opinion .
Before I got married my partner and I agreed we both have lives and things we like to do,and together we have a life . I never once cheated on her and I don’t think she ever did. She never tried to stop me from seeing my friends with or without her and I never did with her.we had problems sometimes but we were open with each other. Sometimes well intentioned friends made things interesting. @bijouxbroussard

SW-User

Someone probably has drugs .. thats what I think about when I see an old cat around younger females .. that or He’s got money

TryingtoLava

@SW-User i aint sayin shes a gold digger but she aint messin with some broke guy

BlueVeins · 22-25

Not really, but also normalcy is kinda stupid in itself. Be your own person.

SW-User

it depends on the relationship between them and the context of the scene ..
like is he a tutor and his students are taking him out for a drink to celebrate a great achievement in some test? ... or some other scenario ..

But if he is just after sex, i think that is their business .. as all of them are adults anyway, i wont interfere regardless of my personal feelings about it.

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bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User Yes, on the next page:

Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F
My 50 year old bf
Have been partying with the young boys
They aren't even grown up .
All acts like teenagers.
And when I speak to him about it
He flips. 🙄

SW-User

@bijouxbroussard and yet, still no context .. doesnt mention who those young men are to her bf .. what's the relationship, and so on. I feel there's just too much hidden facts here and i'm moving on.

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User It does sound problematic.

Onestarlitnight

Why shouldn't he? They're young men.
Maybe they think that he's cool, maybe they like having him around and for him it just feels nice.. They're feeding his ego and rekindling some of his younger energy..

Maybe he's defensive because she thinks it's weird when it's absolutely not. If he's enjoying his time with them and they like having him around Where's the harm?

It's only weird if you make it weird.

Carissimi · F

How many movies do we see where older men befriend younger men, and no one has an issue with it, but in real life, people only put a negative spin on it, like its sexual or something, when it absolutely is nothing more than friendship. @Onestarlitnight

valobasa4ever · F

🥂@Onestarlitnight

Carissimi · F

Some 50-year olds are still 25-30 on the inside, and some 23-year olds are like 35, so it can and does happen that people separated by 10-years or more can be on the same maturity level.

It’s happened to me three times. I became best friends with a co-worker when I was 35, but I looked like I was in my 20s. She looked like she was 25-26, and had the same maturity level as myself. We had a great rapport. She was 19. Another real life best friend was 76, when I was in my late 40s. We just got on so well that I forgot how old she was. Then on EP, my best friend there was in her late 20s (but an old soul), and I was in my 50s. With these friends, chronological age didn’t matter because of the personalities of the people. We just had a great rapport, and age wasn’t an issue. .

CakeByTheOcean · 26-30, F

I have friends, mostly through work, who are in that age range. There’s nothing wrong with it.

nedkelly · 61-69, M

They are perverts and trying to get laid

No other reason

HeidiA · 41-45, F

Who’s to decide what’s normal?

TryingtoLava

@HeidiA idk how a policeman would like that Q

HeidiA · 41-45, F

@TryingtoLava There nothing in this post that would concern a policeman.

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

Assuming he is after sex, then no it is not. But I would like to think that there are other reasons why an older person might want to socialise with younger people and I think inter-generational understanding should be encouraged 🤷‍♀️

Fluffybull · F

@SunshineGirl He could be missing the days he had no responsibilities and hung out with friends and had a beer and listened to music and had a laugh. His 50 year old friends probably are having boring dinner parties with their boring wives. I know where I'd rather be spending my time.....😉👏☺️

SW-User

I think he wants to feel young again maybe and, or looking for something else with them.. I wouldn’t say it’s normal, I personally wouldn’t want to hang out and drink with someone my father’s age. But everyone has their opinions

4meAndyou · F

My friends and I used to invite our professors out for drinks, if they were cool guys. But I agree, if he is not a professor he is trying to score something. Not sure what kind of something.

Eddiesolds · 61-69, M

Ya that aint normal

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Synyster · 51-55, M

@Rhode57
You just made the SW creep list.
Congrats!!

Rhode57 · 56-60, M

@Synyster Maybe but at least I am not a narrow minded judgemental biggot .

Synyster · 51-55, M

@Rhode57
Are calling me a biggot? Really?
It's not just my opinion, read the thread.

Tminus6453 · M

19-23 y/o guys or girls?... either way its not normal but partying with girls that young means he's most likely trying to get sex

CookieCrumbs · F

To others it may not seem normal. One would ask what do they have in common to talk about?

But maybe for him it’s not about similarities, but more about differences which complement what he lacks. Maybe he enjoys their energy and their way of thinking.

What’s questionable though is how he becomes defensive when you asked him about it.

Rhode57 · 56-60, M

@CookieCrumbs Not really questionable depends how she put it , cant imagine she was to polite which would get any guys back up . Maybe they have something as simple as football in common .

CookieCrumbs · F

@Rhode57
That makes sense.

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bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User When in doubt, why not ask ?

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mrh1972 · MVIP

Mid life crisis wanting his youth back maybe??

Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F

I wondered if he was going through a mid life crisis @mrh1972

Elisbch · M

Definitely .. and I might add there might have been some added benefits ..@Ifollowmyownstar

Repete · 61-69, M

You have asked a good question that has many sides to it one being what we assume just by seeing a younger person with an older person. Does it make a difference who is the older one? In my opinion it shouldn’t . Just saying.

Fluffybull · F

@Repete Agree. People can have friends of all ages. To suggest that one should only socialise with a similar age group is really rather, well, ageist.

Repete · 61-69, M

One more point of view because I have reread the question and you may have meant something different . I was thinking you was talking one on one but your question seems to imply differently a 50 year old hanging out with a group of young people. If that is the case I would ask myself is he joining in the conversations , is he participating with the others or they with him , if yes then it’s up to the group. They must want his input.
If he is sitting by himself with no real connection with anyone else that may, and I say again may be a totally different matter

bijouxbroussard · F

It’s definitely not the norm, but the red flag would be that he’s defensive about it. If there’s a reasonable explanation, why would he get upset when asked by someone he cares about ?

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bijouxbroussard · F

@Repete Why wouldn’t she want to know ? Consider John Wayne Gacy’s ex-wives.

WandererTony · 56-60, M

@bijouxbroussard he has a story he needs to share!

Repete · 61-69, M

@bijouxbroussard I would think she knows if they just had a drink or a dinner or whatever. What I am saying is either one could get defensive if accused of something they really don’t think of in the way others may.
How can or why should we force OUR normal into someone else’s life.
Asking is one thing accusing is another. In my opinion.

Ynotisay · M

Normal is a little subjective but a 50 year old man hanging around with kids is, more than likely, dealing with some issues.

Rhode57 · 56-60, M

What is wrong with that . They are hanging out and drinking big deal NOT . They are all adults and if their happy its no one elses business.

MntoNc · 36-40, M

I personally find it a bit unusual. What does a 50 year old have in common with a 22 year old?

Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F

Right !!? 👏🏻 @MntoNc

DragonFruit · 61-69, M

Just because it's not the norm, that doesn't mean that it's wrong or needs to be changed.

FreeSpirit1 · F

I can't judge, I hang around younger people more than people my age.

pdockal · 56-60, M

Age is only a number one you pass legal consent

romell · 51-55, M

Does age matter to socialize??

Repete · 61-69, M

I hope not . I think it would get boring if the only people you could hang out with was the people within your age bracket. But that’s just my opinion.@romell

Lilymoon · F

It's a whole lotta Ewwww

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Lilymoon · F

@Darksideinthenight2 🤣 you're not over the hill yet 🤭

Rhode57 · 56-60, M

What is normal . If its not normal then better stop going to watch sport there is young and old mixing there and you say thats not normal . Dont go out with family as there is young and old having a good time and food together and thats not normal . Normal doesnt exist stop being so bloody judgemental just because you dont agree with it .

SW-User

Nope, not normal. Why is this even a question?

WandererTony · 56-60, M

Assuming they are boys, its not normal. Maybe he had a son he is missing badly?

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bijouxbroussard · F

@WandererTony News flash ! If a boy makes him a pedophile, so would a girl ! But 19-23 isn’t underage.

WandererTony · 56-60, M

@bijouxbroussard you got me wrong. I wasnt gender specific on pedo. Anyways i rest my case.

bijouxbroussard · F

@WandererTony Oh, okay.

Fluffybull · F

He's trying to relive his lost youth.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Kinda weird.

PepsiColaP

Im not sure what your definition of normal is but it sounds like he consciously or subconsciously is looking to be around people whom display the same level of maturity he wants to display

Dino11 · M

Nope.

Fluffybull · F

You've already posted that your boyfriend has cheated on you with a girl. So you're now posting he's seeing boys?? 🙄

Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F

Who said anything about seeing guys ? He's partying with young boys 🙄@Fluffybull

Ihopetolivehappily · M

As we get older we have lesser lesser chances to act young.

I guess he's probably enjoy spending time as one of dudes.

chrisCA · M

Maybe he works with them.
Also, some older people go back to school late in life, and are invited out for a drink with their classmates.

SW-User

It's a hoax! A witch hunt! Stop the stealing of old men partying with jail bait! Go Trump!

iamelijah · 26-30, M

I wonder why wouldn't be normal? We all through younger phase before. It's like senior to junior.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I can imagine it is normal in some places but definitely not normal to me or people that I know.

SW-User

It's cringey and desperate

Keeper · M

It's not normal.

PhaqueYou · M

And why are you there???

Londonn · 36-40, M

of course normal

TryingtoLava

Not normal

Justenjoyit · 61-69, M

I dont think I would have the patience or the energy to mix with that age group.

Lilnonames · F

Because he's buying and it only cost a blowjob

Bang5luts · M

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