how do you deal with jealousy?

@bijouxbroussard the fear of missing out i suppose. missing out on memories that people my age usually make. we only live once and each year i miss my chance on making special memories.

@looping Being jealous of others doesn’t help that happen.

And it’s a waste of time that perhaps could be spent involved in activities allowing you to interact with others, making happy memories.

Like I said, I don’t know your particular situation.

But for myself when I feel envious about what others are doing I know I need to work on me.
That was how I first began volunteering.

@bijouxbroussard i cant out logic my jealousy but i understand what you're saying

@SW-User I get the gist of it.

@FloorGenAdm has nothing to do with this post though. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@SW-User 🤔

@Carissimi when something makes me jealous it completely takes me out of the moment. i lose all motivation and just sit in my self pity

So it makes you feel “less than?” It threatens your sense of security? And you retreat. It sounds like you don’t feel like you are good enough for whatever it is making you feel jealous. It’s very complex, and brings into account your childhood, your personality, and all your life experiences that have brought you to this point, and made you the person you are now. Basically, and in my opinion, jealousy is about “loss.” Something you want, and don’t have. Some are plain greedy, and want things that others have, but many just feel bad because the loss of not having whatever it is runs deep with pain. You may need to use your retreat to do some introspection, and find out the root cause of why you feel this way. @looping

@Carissimi i see. i appreiate your insight

@Lilymoon how exactly do you try and stay calm? do you have any coping strategies?

@looping No unfortunately it's a tough situation. I just try to look at all the angles .... but tbh I can't relax if it's a cheating situation until I know all the facts.

@Lostpoet it does