Why don’t parents and adults just actually play legitimately?

When your child wants to race you at the playground on the kiddie rock wall, why is there this assumption that your child can
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t actually race you? Instead it seems that grown
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ups will just barely move, and act like the Kiddie

wall is the hardest thing ever. Why not actually climb, and actually race your child like they are wanting you to do
?

The whole point of a rock wall races to see who can get to the top first. Why is there always the assumption that the adult or parent will always win? Why don
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t they let their kid actually race with them on the Rockwall? What would happen if they did?
It is the same thing when a child wants to arm wrestle with them the adult seemingly barely even does much of anything, and it is very obvious that they are just straight up letting their kid win. Why doesn
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t the adult actually put in effort when they arm wrestle? Why not actually challenge your kid, the whole point of arm wrestling is to see who is strong stronger. Again why is there always the assumption that their kid can
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t win in arm wrestling? Why doesn
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t the adult actually play an actual arm wrestling match against them to see who would win?
I have also noticed this when parents have a running relay race with their child. Why don
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t the parents actually run? Instead they will sort of do this really awkward walking, and they end up just letting their kid win. The whole point of a running race is to see Who is going to get there first. Why not actually run and actually challenge your kid? Why is there always the assumption that their kid can
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t have an actual legitimate running race against them? What would happen if they did?

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

The objective of races is not always to win. More often than not we take part to build up our child's confidence in a safe and supportive environment. And . . to have fun 🙂

2goboXes · 26-30, FNew

@SunshineGirl how are you building confidence when your child wants to have a running race to see who can run faster when you just let them win? Or when your child wants to have a climbing race with you on the playground children Wall? The whole point is to see who can climb up the kiddie wall first, how are you building confidence when you give your kid faults confidence and just let them win. Why not have an actual race?

Same thing with arm wrestling. Why not have an actual arm wrestling match like your kid is wanting? Let them prove themselves that they can win instead of assuming that they can’t.

Ynotisay · M

Because small successes encourages someone to get better.
Most kids who fail all the time will quit. The trick is to let them win sometimes but not all the time.
You give them a taste of victory so you can give them the lesson of losing and trying again.
And then when a kid REALLY wins, like I did against my Dad in a race or a sport, it was milestone. A goal was reached.